lördag 30 december 2017

Moving On from a Broken Heart

One of the biggest challenges in life is to let a relationship go. No matter what happened, learning to accept it's over is often difficult. Your partner may have been a spouse, your first love, or the one that got away.

In spite of the fact the relationship is over, some people find it very difficult to get past the hurt and break the connection they once had with their previous partner. Moving on may be the hardest thing they will ever have to do.

Recovering from the immense pain and sadness of a broken heart is no picnic. When two people fall in love, they want it to last forever and honestly believe it will.

But when the relationship doesn't last, the pain can be overwhelming and the future seem hopeless. What's more, if the person who can't let go continues to relive the devastating pain of the breakup, may end up in a vicious cycle of despair and misery.

Emotional Devastation

Just because a relationship has ended, doesn't mean the feelings are going to disappear overnight. The aftermath of a breakup can leave you feeling rejected, angry, grief-stricken, lonely, and empty.
In fact, you may call your ex repeatedly or contact your ex's friends in an attempt to maintain some sort of connection to them. This is a natural human reaction to a lost love. And while it's understandable, it will prevent you from healing and moving on with your life.

In order to get your life back on track, you must close the door to your past - or you will never have a future. You cannot live in the past if you want to ever be happy again.

What happened is over. No amount of wishing or wanting is going to change or undo what's been done. The sooner you can accept this, the sooner you will find peace.

For Your Sake Put the Past Behind You

In order to experience a sense of closure, you must let go of the desperate feeling that you can't survive without your ex partner. Negative feelings such as guilt, failure, resentment, and anger must be addressed and effectively managed.

While it's normal to feel this way under the circumstances, it should only be temporary. Continuing to hold on to these bad feelings not only keeps you from healing, it also destroys any chance of you ever being happy again and living a rich full life.

Why Self Worth is so Important After a Breakup

Many times when a relationship comes to an end, one or both people adopt an attitude of failure and low self-esteem. They base their self worth on the success or failure of the relationship.

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Moving On from a Broken Heart

This is extremely damaging in terms of your emotional state of mind. Never should a person determine their own self worth by measuring themselves against another person.

By learning to love yourself unconditionally, you will be able to survive a devastating breakup or anything else life throws at you.

Starting the Healing Process by Moving On

While there's no way to magically and instantly stop the hurt and pain of a lost love, there are indeed several ways to heal yourself. Focus on changing the things you can, and let go of what you cannot.

- Stop all communication with your ex (unless you have kids). Refrain from calling, texting, and following them. Harassing them and trying to maintain contact keeps you bound to the pain.

- It's over, done, finished - it's history. Stop beating yourself up over whose fault it was, what you could have done better, and generally blaming yourself.

Forgive the other person and yourself to find happiness again. The better you feel about yourself, the easier it will be to move on.

- Get out there and start mingling with other people. Remember when you used to have fun? And when you do start dating again, never talk about your ex and the details of your relationship and/or breakup.

You're out on a date. This could be the start of a wonderful new relationship. Why are you dredging up the past? Leave your cares behind - this is a new day.

Healing Takes Time

Give yourself enough time to heal your broken heart. Being happy with who you are will allow you to feel joy with someone new.

Moving on can be painful, but the good news is you will discover who you are in the process and eventually find someone even better. Hang on. You're worth it.

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onsdag 27 december 2017

Recovery Myths

At the end of a relationship, it seems as though everyone has some helpful (and sometimes not so helpful) advice. These tidbits of “wisdom” range from the annoying “You’re better off now” to the offensive “I don’t know what you saw in him anyway”.
Unfortunately, these little snippets of help often lead to myths that make you feel as though something is wrong with you.
Let’s dispel some of the more common breakup myths and get you back onto the road to recovery.

“Your ex was a jerk – don’t waste time missing him.” This classic line sounds like good advice on the surface. The reality is that a breakup is an emotional event. While your ex may in fact, be a jerk, you saw something in him that drew you to him, so there was some connection between you.

When you lose that connection, there is a loss that can cause you emotional pain. You will still need to move through the stages of loss before you can move on in your life. Even when your ex is a jerk, you are actually mourning the loss of the good parts of the relationship – so it makes sense that you will be sad.

“Missing him is a sign that you should still be together.” This is bad thinking. Much like a drug addict misses their drug of choice – even years after the last time they took it – missing something is not a sure-fire sign that you were meant to be together.

This is an emotional response to the loss, and should not be taken as reasons to get back together. When you lose something, you miss it – even if it was not good for you or if you are glad the relationship is over – there is still a sense of loss that must be worked through.

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Recovery Myths

“Just get over it.” If sadness could be swept away with a flip of a switch the world would be a different place. Your friends and family likely don’t want you to be sad, so they want you to be able to move on as quickly as possible.

Just willing yourself to get over the loss is not an effective (or healthy) way of dealing with the end of a relationship. Don’t fight the stages of relationship loss – they are all important. You will “get over it” when you are ready to move on.

“You should be over it by now.” We’ve all been there – the long days of sadness and anger feel like they will never end. Unfortunately, there isn’t a time limit or a specific number of days that the grief will last.

Moving on from an ended relationship is different for every person, so there is no way to determine how long the process will take – you can only move through the grieving process until you find yourself through it.

Each person is different, and ending a relationship is different for each person. Don’t get caught up in the ideas that other people tell you. Mourn the loss of your relationship, and move through each stage so that you can be ready to face a new relationship when it presents itself.

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lördag 23 december 2017

Setting Healthy Boundaries

Every relationship is a series of give and take – sometimes you give more, sometimes you take more. A healthy relationship moves back and forth between the two areas, with ease and understanding.
When a relationship is in its beginning stages, it is important to set healthy boundaries to ensure the success of the relationship. If boundaries are not set, either one or the other of the members of the relationship may begin to feel imposed upon, and will be unhappy in the relationship. This leads to breakup and discontent.

Boundaries are both physical and emotional. Physical boundaries include the ideas of who can touch us, and how they can touch us. A random stranger in the grocery store has a different set of boundaries than your mom, for example.

If your mom hugged you, you probably wouldn’t react with shock or discomfort. Physical boundaries are important to help you feel physically safe and comfortable.

Emotional boundaries are equally as important. Boundaries in your emotions dictate how you respond to people around you. If you feel as though you are responsible for someone else’s emotional well-being, you have a low level of emotional boundaries.

People who have low emotional boundaries generally have chaotic lives – full of drama and stress.

Analyze your own emotional boundaries at the beginning of a relationship to help identify areas where you need to work. Boundaries that are too tight can be seen in a person who never lets anyone get too close.

They seem distant and self-reliant. They generally have very tight physical and emotional boundaries – no one is allowed within the rigid walls of their person.

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Setting Healthy Boundaries

Someone with loose boundaries is often sexually promiscuous, is easily hurt and easily angered. They have no protection or boundary line, and are in constant need of reassurance. The person with no boundaries is easily hurt – both physically and emotionally.

A healthy set of boundaries is firm, but flexible. There are definite areas that are off limits, but the boundary may change as circumstances change. At the beginning of a relationship, for example, there may be limited physical contact, but as the relationship progresses, the boundary of physical touch may change.

Emotionally, someone may be held at arm’s length until they have shown themselves to be trustworthy and secure. Not everyone will respect your boundaries – be firm in your boundary setting and choose your relationships wisely.

It is important to discuss your boundaries with the person you are in a relationship with. This can be handled in a calm and friendly manner, letting the other person know that you value their friendship but that there are certain restrictions to the relationship.
Boundary setting is a continual process and can lead to a sense of self-worth and self-appreciate. It is exciting to know that you can be your true self with another person, and that they understand and know the real you. Don’t be afraid to establish relationship boundaries at the beginning of a new relationship – they set the stage for a lasting and secure relationship.

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torsdag 21 december 2017

Relationship Reintroduction

Every relationship begins rife with potential for the heights of pleasure and pain. What happens when the couple has witnessed those rolling peaks and valleys? Coming back into a relationship, especially after its demise, cause people to be wary. While caution shows wisdom, cutting off any future with a previous partner might be an unnecessary surrender. So, what are some some signs demonstrating the relationship potential of the person returning? Checking these items might give a indication whether to reestablishing with one another.

Reopening Communications

Everyone receives messages from an old partner from time to time. It might be a random phone call or text or message on social media. Depending on what happened, the natural reaction might be to delete it and ignore the contact. The original relationshipo and its end brings the greatest evidence of how to proceed following the contact. Was it toxic? Did they cheat? Were they immature? Any of these would be a good reason to power through without stopping. However, relationships end for numerous reasons including distance, different goals or not being ready to move to the next level. Listening to them can be an important first step. If they want to reconnect, there might be a reason and it never hurts to hear what they say realizing you are under no commitment to them.

Things Always Change

One of the great things about people is how adaptable they are. When faced with a situation, they possess the potential to change to meet the challenge. An event in someone's life can cause them to reevaluate old relationships. They might realize in the course of a difficult time the relationship they previously held dear is the best place for them. Some events creating a crucible in which deep consideration of the heart to occur can be health scares, loss of a family member or person close to them, crises of conscious or a deep dissatisfaction with their lives. Knowing this explains why they have returned, but hearing the outcome of the trial is where the new person they have become will shine. Meeting the new person, the person impacted by change, will give a glimpse as to the type of relationship to come and how it may vary from the previous.

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Relationship Reintroduction 

Look for Evidence

The main source of information is the returning person. While they should be given a chance, the partner allowing them back should take every opportunity to confirm the data they receive. Talking to people in their lives, including those who were around during the first incarnation of the relationship, will give substantiate what they have witnessed. If the person struggled with certain behaviors, key in on those. Are they less prone to angry outbursts? Have they taken an active role in charity or the community? Have they shown a level of consistency with these things? Trusting while verifying with outside sources gives a clearer picture of the person coming back into a partner's life.

Is This What You Want?

This can be the biggest question of all. The person might have changed and be a great person. But those facts do not overshadow the truth they were in your life for a season and then moved away from the relationship. This question is so challenging because of the mix of history and hope. Feeling like this person is known while seeing how they have genuinely changed might cloud one's judgement. It is important to take stock of the situation soberly before permitting them back.

This is the question facing everyone because no one does not have someone they think would be the ideal match if they would have done one thing or the other. Occasionally, they come back and they have changed in that way. Realize their return does not obligate anyone to take them back. That said, slamming every door on every occasion prevents true hope for the future to spring in the heart. Remain open, cautious and hopeful.

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tisdag 19 december 2017

Should You Give Your Ex a Birthday Present if You're Trying to Get Your Ex Back?

It's not always easy to know the right move to make in the period of time following a breakup. This becomes even more difficult if you're trying to get your ex back. Most people walk a very fine line between appearing open to the idea of reconciliation and seeming just a tad over-eager.

Getting your ex back is your number one priority. You don't want to do anything to jeopardize that. Yet, you believe you NEED to give your ex something to commemorate the event of his or her birth. It's understandable. But, is it the right move to make?

Ask yourself a few quick questions to help you determine whether or not giving a gift at this stage of your efforts is the right move to make.

1) How often do the two of you talk? If you talk regularly and are on friendly terms, then a platonic gift is quite appropriate provided that your ex initiates most of the conversations between the two of you.

2) Is your ex the one initiating the conversations? Your ex should be initiating most, if not all of the conversations between the two of you. If you're the one making all the effort to get conversations started, then you need to take a step back and reconsider your approach.

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Should You Give Your Ex a Birthday Present if You're Trying to Get Your Ex Back?

3) Would you feel awkward about offering a gift to your ex? If offering the gift doesn't feel 100 percent natural to you, then it's a bad idea. End of story. Wait until a stage in your relationship where it feels completely natural to give a gift to your ex.

4) Is the gift appropriate for the current state of your relationship? Here's the real rub, though. The gift needs to be appropriate for how things are between the two of you now. Don't go overly sentimental, symbolic, or inappropriate. This isn't an opportunity to apply pressure, but to stay the course. The gift may be meaningful, but it should not make your ex feel uncomfortable.

Gifts are great for brightening days and celebrating life events. In ordinary circumstances, you'd always want to give someone you're dating a gift to celebrate a birthday or important life milestone. When you're trying to get your ex back, though, the wrong gift -- or a gift at the wrong time, can easily have an effect that is far opposite of its intent. Tread carefully.

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fredag 15 december 2017

What a Girl Wants - And Why You're the Man to Give it to Her

Relationships with women can be a bit of a mystery to the modern man. It seems that girls today say one thing and want something else. In some ways that's true. Women are constantly at war with a long history of genetic encoding where relationships are concerned and thoroughly modern ideas of what relationships should be. Somewhere in the mix, is a very mixed up girl. However, there are a few things that are almost universally wanted by women in relationships today. Do these things and she's sure to be putty in your hands.

Treat Her Like a Lady

This is one thing that needs to be done in both word and deed. Talk to her and in her presence in a manner that's befitting a lady. It might receive a few raised eyebrows at first, because it's so novel. After a while, however, it will really begin to shape your entire relationship -- especially when you follow up with treating her like a lady. There's nothing wrong with opening doors, leading on the dance floors, and even small acts of chivalry. It's a lost art that many women truly lament.  More importantly, most women want to be treated that way, they're just afraid to speak up and ask for it.

Give Her Room to Grow

Just as men don't appreciate being smothered in constant togetherness; women need a little time to pursue interests of their own. Whether it's educational, spiritual, or simply time to go out and connect with the girls, your lady needs to enjoy some space from the relationship so that she can feed the person she is as well as the partner she needs to be for you.

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What a Girl Wants - And Why You're the Man to Give it to Her

At the same time, it's healthy for you to pursue outside interests such as hobbies, weekly poker night, or even joining a bowling league if that's your thing. You will grow much better together if you're also both growing as individuals in the process.

Be a Partner to Share it All

Relationships are partnerships whether you're entering your first year together or your fiftieth. She needs to know that you're her partner in every aspect of the relationship. She doesn't want to feel as though you're going to run out on her when the real work gets started, dishes need to be washed, or lawns require mowing. Even if you agree on how to split the responsibilities it's important to make those decisions together, as equals.

Relationships today are much simpler than many people try to make them out. Girls are complex creatures to the average man who knows what he wants and isn't afraid to say it. Give her what she wants first; so that she never needs to ask for it, and she'll have a hard time even thinking about looking elsewhere for love.

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onsdag 13 december 2017

Six Secrets for a Long Healthy Relationship

We live in a time when people change relationships more often than they change hairstyles. Some people would call them disposable. Easy come. Easy go. But, what happens, when you think you've found the one. You know, the one they wrote epic poems about long ago. The one that makes every other relationship pale by comparison -- at least as far as your relationship experiences are concerned. How do you hold on to this special relationship while so many other couples are unable to make it work?

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The key word here is work. You have to work at making relationships last. Fortunately for you, these six secrets for relationship success don't always feel like the hard work they are.

1) Communicate. You have to communicate effectively with each other. That doesn’t simply mean you have to talk to each other. You have to also understand each other and be on the same page about many things in your relationships and in the lives you build together.

2) Connect. The physical connection between couples is vital to relationship longevity. It goes beyond what takes place in the bedroom however. You really do need the connection of human touch to help solidify your bond. Cuddle together on the couch, hold hands in the theater, and hug each other as often as possible. The more you touch, in a genuine and affectionate manner, generally speaking, the happier you are together.

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Six Secrets for a Long Healthy Relationship

3) Find common ground. Every relationship needs a little common ground. These are the areas where the two of you have shared convictions. Sometimes these convictions are based on morals or religion. Other times they're related to causes or politics. Whatever your shared convictions may be, it's a wise plan to cultivate that common ground and grow together.

4) Shared interests. This is a little different than common ground. Your interests don't have to be on the same scale. However, if you both love the ocean you might find that buying a sailboat, for instance, is a great way to feed the love of sailing the open seas for one while feeding the love of water and sunshine for the other. You both love the ocean and sailing gives you an opportunity to enjoy the thing you both love together.

5) Companionship. You must spend time together if your relationship is going to work. Otherwise there really isn't a relationship to cultivate. Time is critical. Finding positive ways to spend your time together, even in troubling times, is a great way to build a stronger relationship together -- especially if you're both committed to the cause of making your relationship last.

6) Time apart. While it's important to spend time as a couple in order to cultivate and grow the relationship, it's also important to enjoy a little time outside of your partner's company. You both need friends on the side for blowing off steam, wise counsel, and a little break from the intensity of the relationship.

These six secrets may not look like all that much on a piece of paper, but over the years, they will all make a huge difference in the strength and resilience of your relationship together. Keep them in mind at all times for best results.

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måndag 11 december 2017

Undeniable Signs He's In Love With You

It's not always easy to tell if a man is actually in love with you or just really likes you. But there are a few surefire ways to tell so you can stop wondering.

You're His Top Priority

He thinks about you often and keeps in contact frequently throughout the day. He includes you in his plans and appreciates it when you do the same for him. In conversation, he uses words like "us", "we", and "ours". This indicates he subconsciously wants you to be a part of his future.

He Respects You and Treats You Well

When a man loves a woman he is attentive to her needs, feelings, and desires. In fact, if he's really in love with you, chances are he will put your needs first over his own.

Often he will go out of his way to make your life better in some way and also show respect and courtesy to your friends and family as well.

A Man in Love Will Tell His Friends All About You

If a man shows you affection, especially in public, it clearly indicates he's proud of you and wants everyone to see that you're his main squeeze.

He wants all his friends and family to know about you and invites you to special family functions and even company gatherings.

Most of His Free Time is Spent With You

You're the one he wants to see in his free time. He chooses to go everywhere with you and spend major holidays together such as Christmas, New Year's Eve, Thanksgiving, and of course, Valentine's Day.

If a Man Loves You, He Cares About Your Life

A man who truly loves you is genuinely happy when things go well for you. In challenging times, he's the first one to comfort you and stay by your side. He's the epitome of a stand-up guy who's willing to go the extra mile on your behalf.

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Undeniable Signs He's In Love With You 

A love-smitten man will likely think of fun ways to surprise you in order to keep you happy. When faced with adversity or danger, he rushes to your side to show his clear intention of protecting you and everything about you.

Men in Love Don't Cheat

If a man loves you, there is no way he is going to cheat on you with another woman. No excuses. Yes, men are hard-wired to spread their seed and procreate in the animal kingdom. But an honorable man who's deeply in love with a woman wouldn't think of it.

He only desires the object of his affection - you. Also, he treats your relationship with the utmost integrity and honor. He is trustworthy, noble, and loyal when it comes to your connection with him. He does what he says he's going to do out of respect for you.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Never believe a man when he says "I love you" if his actions and behaviors aren't aligned with his words. Does he say "I love you" and then turn around and text another woman secretly behind your back?

If so, he doesn't truly love or respect you. Your gut instinct will let you know whether he's simply feeding you a line for some ulterior motive or if he truly means it. Also, read his body language when he says it.

Trust your intuition - it's right 100% of the time.

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fredag 15 september 2017

How to Communicate with Your Mate About the Tough Stuff: Jealousy

By Susie and Otto Collins 

Joe's wife, Kristi, has a jealousy problem and he's had enough. It seems that every single day there is new drama in their marriage...generated by her. 

It's often the same turn of events. Joe comes home a little late because he's been tied up at work or maybe he needs a little time to unwind after a long day, so he stops for a drink with a co-worker. 

Then, when Joe does arrive home, it seems like he's always greeted with accusations and interrogations. Joe wants to know how to talk with Kristi about her jealousy before it's too late for their marriage.

When it comes to jealousy, talking with your partner in a way that doesn't tear you further apart can be really tricky. 

It may be obvious to you that your mate has a problem. The number of times that he or she has flown off the handle and accused you of flirting, looking at others or even having an affair may be too many to count. 

On the other hand, if you are the one who tends to get jealous, it may be obvious to you that your partner is the one with the problem.

Perhaps, from your point of view, he or she truly is a flirt and sometimes even talks, looks at or touches others in ways that you find inappropriate. 

What's your perspective? 
When it comes to jealousy, your perspective can truly alter what you see. It can mean the difference between words or actions being innocent and "no big deal" OR them being suspicious and betraying.

This is really important to remember as you set about to communicate about jealousy in a way that helps you and your partner move closer together. 

Try to move beyond the question of who's right and who's wrong. 

You are certainly experiencing a situation in a particular way and your mate is probably experiencing the same situation differently. 

In order for the two of you to be able to talk about what you each want and to create agreements you both can stick with, it's vital that you remind yourself that your perspective is not the only
perspective of what's going on. 

Does this mean that you have to just sit there silently while, for example, your boyfriend so clearly checks out an attractive woman who walks by? 

Of course not. 

What it means is that instead of yelling around about it or storming off, you make a clear and, as calm as possible, choice about what you'll do next. 

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Speak honestly and about your feelings. The next time that Joe comes home late to an irate wife, he does something out of the ordinary. 

He hears her litany of questions... "Where were you? How do I know you were really at work? When will you learn to treat me with respect and call me when you'll be late?"

Then, Joe tells Kristi that he's going to take a few moments by himself and then he'd like to talk with her about this whole situation. 

She is surprised, because this is not Joe's usual reaction, which is to yell back at her that she needs to just trust him and stay out of his business. 

During this time alone, Joe takes some deep breaths and calms down. When he steps back from his own perspective for a moment, he can understand why Kristi would be upset and even feel jealous and worried. 

Joe returns to Kristi and apologizes for being late and for his habit of not calling to let her know his plans. He then opens up and shares with her how sad he feels about the tension and conflict between them lately. 

He tells her that knows that he's not easy to live with and that he feels trapped and boxed in when Kristi lays in on him with accusations and interrogations. 

Together, Joe and Kristi begin to sort through how they each feel. A greater understanding of where they are both coming from results. 

There is no magic cure for jealousy. 

But, when you can begin to own and communicate honestly about your emotions and you take responsibility for your share in the habits that are driving you two apart, magical things can happen. 

Choose words that reflect your experience of the situation. Do not label your partner's experience or guess what he or she wants or is feeling. 

You can always ask questions to get more information about what's happening for him or her. 

For example, Joe says to Kristi, "I get really angry when you automatically assume that I'm sleeping around with another woman because I get home late. But, I wonder if you are afraid that that's exactly what I'm doing when I don't call. Is that true for you?"

When you ask a question, be sure you really listen to your mate's response. Even if you don't agree with his or her perspective, you might be able to better understand what's going on for him or her when you do. 

From this place of listening and sharing honestly, you and your partner can create agreements that will help you to overcome jealousy, bolster trust and begin to move closer together. 
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torsdag 20 april 2017

Keeping Partners Happy

Relationship happiness challenges every couple and grows only more so the longer couples remain together. It goes beyond flowers at Valentine's Day and a sweet card on the anniversary. Knowing one's partner is critical followed closely by avoiding the temptation of self interest. Let's see some key missteps and wins in keeping partners happy.

Self Happiness Temptation

The person's tastes and preferences one knows the best is their own. When making decisions in a relationship, they can have a hard time putting aside what they prefer in favor of their partner. What causes these choices to be wrong?

* They ask for a change the partner is not willing to make -- either because they do not want or are not ready to make.
* They seek to establish a level of commitment for one's own security in the relationship.
* They cast the individual in a light not fitting who they really are causing them to feel a deep discomfort.
* They call into question the reason for the relationship if they do not meet unspoken expectations.

Early on, these sorts of things can be talked out because couples are getting to know each other. The amount of information they do not have far outweighs what they possess. Trouble occurs when it continues to happen because then a partner begins feeling they are not being heard.

What Makes Them Happy

A few simple rules exist to discover what makes another person feel happy in a relationship. If they are simple, people think everyone gains access and follows through in every instance. Because of such an unfortunate misconception coupled with a person's natural desire to follow their own self interest, partners need to interrogate and investigate what they are doing.

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Keeping Partners Happy

Ask: Often simply asking a partner will give the clearest indication the aspects of relationships bringing them the most joy. Bear in mind, this might change because people often blind themselves to what they really want. People also need to feel safe enough to be able to give voice to their desires in a relationship.

Watch: People will do things pointing to just what makes them happy. Do they say they need time alone and then linger in the same room with questions? They could be asking for the contact or time. Maybe they produce something creative and need the nurturing safety of the relationship.

Hear: As with everything, we all long to be heard, sometimes even the words. A partner who lived in a tumultuous house growing up may struggle with expressing how deeply they care. By being exposed to their history, one can pick out bits of their story coming through in what they do and positively impact them when they are opening up.

Happiness Connection

There are two people in the relationship, so happiness is not based on a single side. Pursing only one person's bliss will create a lack of balance. Why would this be bad? It provides a place of hiding. By being shielded, couples may become close without any opportunity for deeper connection. This means communicating, exploring activities together and fostering inclusion. This should be reciprocated because happiness should be both people's goal.

Think of a relationship as a tree. Rarely, does anyone ask if a tree is happy. Fortunately, everyone knows when it is happy because it is healthy, strong and growing. A relationship where both partners flourish, feel heard and laugh together stretches its root deep into the ground and hold fast for years to come.

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söndag 19 februari 2017

The Magic of Making Up

The Secret you need to know to get your lover back! From the man that has helped over 50 000 people in 77 countries to get back together again!

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 Works For Long Distance Relationships Too... 

Just wanted to thank you and let you know how much you have helped me. I followed the [your guide] after a very bitter breakup of a two-year plus relationship (my first since my divorce from a 21-year marriage). It started out being one of the most difficult things I have ever attempted in my life and after the initial two weeks I started feeling stronger each day and better about myself. My ex sent me an apology email three weeks in ...By now, I had the strength to actually "sleep on it" and sent him a response the next day...within seconds he called me and asked to see me and was crying because he was glad I was talking to him. We are starting out very slowly again as friends (which is difficult for me since I am still deeply in love with him). An interesting note is this is a long distance relationship and your program still worked!! I am so happy to have him in my life again. 
Thanks again, Denise Dating Again!

 Just wanted to say thank you soooooooooo much for the amazing advice in your book the magic of making up. Yesterday was that all important First Date and it was absolutely fantastic... i just had an email from him saying what a great time he had and how he can't believe how cool it was to be together. Also back when we split up, your book picked me up out of the mud when I was feeling the worst I ever felt in my life, and doing all the things you advised gave me a life line - now I am so much stronger and happier. I'm still going to take things slowly with my ex (I'm not at the end of your plan yet!!) but I can't believe how well life is going only 2 months after I felt like I was half dead. Thank you so much. Alice

 Ex POPS The Question... ...just an email to say thanks for all the support and knowledge. my boyfriend has just proposed. we are the happiest we have ever been. wedding booked for 2011. many thanks, Jenna 

 Talking Again... Just wanted to say THANKS!! Me and my ex are talking now. The letter thing worked, even though I thought it wouldn't.... -Delois Best Money Ever Spent... You are the best!!! After one day, again one day, my changed attitude had my ex calling and wanting to see me. I won't take his calls but this showed me that the changes you showed me, worked...you have helped me more than you will ever know... Thanks and keep up the good work. Best money I ever spent!!! Melissa 

Casey gets his girl back! I have good news, my ex did get back with me! She said to me the guy she went out with before was a cover up and she was lying to herself the whole time. Thanks for the support. Casey 

 Married Again... got him back we were married again on the 25th of January .... Linda 

 Not A Scam... I am beside myself that something actually came of this... I was SO skeptical putting in $39 to an e-book. I was positive it would be a waste of money, and there wouldn't even be a book as promised. PLEASE make it clear somewhere on your page that this is NOT A SCAM and that there are 62 PAGES FOR THIS BOOK, PLUS BONUSES. I was beside myself. 
Thank you so much... Sara 

"Impossible Not To Work" Just wanted to let you know your advice is so rational and so sound... At such a horrible and tough time it is reassuring to read the correct way to handle yourself and go about respecting someone's wishes (a breakup) but at the same time try to get them back. A lot of people don't realize how simple and easy it is, patience is a virtue and because of you ... I am now dating the love of my life again, we were together for 4 years, split for only 2 1/2 months and are now back together. I did what you... told me was the ONLY option and it worked. If it is true love and meant to be, your advice is impossible not to work. Thanks for the guidance. You're a good man! CC "On her hands and knees" well it tool some time but i got my girl back. she pretty [much] got down on her hands and knees coming back to me thanks buddy. Rob Talking Like Friends Again! I have just downloaded the materials from the website. I am eager to read and learn. I ALREADY HAVE WONDERFUL NEWS!! Just from the video via your website, before attaining the reading materials, I talked with my ex yesterday for 40 MINUTES!! It has been months since we have talked that long like friends. He even hinted around that we could have a future together. MY ATTITUDE WAS DIFFERENT!! I WAS FRIENDLY AND ACTED LIKE THE BREAKUP IS OK!! Thanks for the free advice and I can't wait to get to reading!! 
I'll keep in touch. Tiffany 

Back Together...Guess what!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i took your advice and my ex- boyfriend and i are back together again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and thanks 4 the advice AGIAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Adrian 

 Back Together...Effortlessly... I am happy to report that my Ex and I are now happily back together. I have to say it was effortlessly done! I thank you for all of your great information. 

Pleasantly Surprised... I have received your guide entitled The Magic of Making Up and was pleasantly surprised with the quality of the advice contained therein...[removed due to sensitive nature] 

 "Dude It's Working..." DUUDE ITS WORKING MAN. After a few weeks of being cool and ok with it, i said we should be friends, and now shes saying im going to give you another chance to get to know me, and if im paying attention to her like i said i would, then ill find the right time to ask her out... thank you! 


 Planning A Beach Getaway! Just wanted to thank you for all your help! Your book is amazing and got my man and I back together within a few weeks of reading it. Now to clarify, it had already been some time since we had even spoken to each other, and I was really starting to miss him. I read your instructions very carefully and fallowed them to the tee, and it worked! ... I could not have done it without you! We are now blissfully celebrating are Birthdays together, and are even planning a beach getaway just us two. 
Thank you sooooo much!!! Lena 

 Finally Married!! thanks for all you help and encouraging words,quotes and what to do. He proposed and we are finally married thank you very much. 

 Another "OMG!!! This Works" Note... OMG!!! This totally worked....nothing I had tried worked and then I texted him that message and he returned my call!! I cannot wait to see where this goes.... Jessica 

 Broke Part Of The Wall Between Us... I downloaded your book and me and my ex talked for an hour and a half. IT was the first time we talked since November of last year! I followed the instructions in the book and am happy with the fact that we were able to just talk even though no progress was made as far as getting back together yet. She is still living with her boyfriend, but I feel like we broke part of the wall between us. If this book helps me to get her back, I will drive to Arkansas and personally shake your hand! So, on that note, hopefully I'll see ya soon! :) 
Will in Concord, NC

Married And Happier Than Ever... Thanks Tdub, I listened to a couple of your emails and used them with my former ex and now we are married and happier than ever you are a God and I owe a lot of this to you. 
Thanks man. John

Have A Date This Friday... Well, My ex and I are talking a little bit more now. He text me yesterday and said that he missed me. He also told me he still loves me. And we have a date this Friday...[removed due to personal nature] 

Most Informative... hey Tdub! how's it goin'? i watched your video, and i must say, it's the most *and you're the most* informative person i know when it comes to what to do about a break up. 

 Back Together In One Week... I did buy the book, and got back togeether in one week. [removed due to personal nature] 

 Ex Flying Back From England! Hi there! Wishing you a very happy christmas too! Thank you so much for your help, your ideas really managed to open my eyes and to see you from another perspective!!i never used to think of it that way. I have learned a lot about myself too, and i now know how to speak to him whilst keeping in control of the situation at the same time. My ex and i had a long distance relationship and he is flying over to see me here in England to try and sort all this mess out! 
Regards and many thanks Nadia

måndag 2 januari 2017

Expressing Love Without Neediness

The emotion of love brings with it countless twists and turns. Those under its sway report mood swings and uncontrollable behaviors. During those times, normal expressions of care create an unstable environment. Though sounding counter intuitive, the madness of love makes people say and do things they might not. Misunderstandings occur most frequently when rocky times buffet the relationship. After a break up, a partner may receive a rebuff from a previously adoring loved one. How can love be offered without leading to greater distance? Let's see how it is possible.

First, a clear definition of neediness is necessary. The word itself denotes a condition of want, need, poverty or indigence. In the state of lack, people behave differently than they might when all their needs are fulfilled. Think of someone under the stresses of extreme hunger. They consume things regardless of how healthy they might be because of their blind need for calories. This can happen emotionally as well.

Manifestations of Neediness

Expressing love while in need carries a yawning maw of emptiness. No matter how much love one puts into it or hears care and concern back, they never feel full. Part of this is because they seek to use their love for a partner in lieu of their own self worth.

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Expressing Love Without Neediness 

* Filling Oneself: Saying things like "I love you" may be rubbing a deep wound of unrequited affection from the far past. This attempt puts too much pressure on a partner and projects neediness.

* Outside Approval: More than just traditional love, approval or value can be bolstered by the presence of a partner. Sensations of being undervalued lurk just out of sight.

* Lacking Separation: Loss of status by no longer being part of a couple causes pain. The emotional pain may lead to clinging onto a relationship out of fear of being alone.

Expressions of Love

Variety proves to be one of the beautiful characteristics of love. As there are infinite people feeling countless things in the world, love pours forth in a myriad of ways. It is up to the person to find the things with the power to speak to their partner. Sometimes the act will require work. Other times love drips from them like fresh honey from a honeycomb.

Gifts, actions and words demonstrates one's deep love in numerous ways. Expressions of love must be tempered. Hearing "I love you" too much will dull a partner to the true meaning of the words. Conversely, a partner saying "I am only happy when you love me" places far too much pressure on the receiver. Gifts and actions carry the same potential to damage relationships rather that allow them to grow.

Taking time, allowing space and checking one's motivation creates a relationship, even one recovered from a break up, where love can flourish. Use the variety of love to capture all the ways a partner encapsulates the things they mean. A healthy relationship lasts for a long time. This means every expression of love can be an exploration into the endless array of the powerful feeling. Say "I love you" a new way everyday.

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