söndag 30 oktober 2016

Finding the Good Side of Jealousy

People tend to categorize things into binary sides of a page. Doing so means they need to expend less effort in decoding how they feel, understand the impact a decision may have or judge the response of others to their actions. This behavior exists in several areas, not the least of which is emotions. Ask people to come up with lists of good and bad feelings and the common denominators will form. On the bad side of the page, emotions like anger, covetousness and jealousy will likely be in the top three.


Understanding each emotion contains a wide range of reasons for its existence. Looking back over time, not every expression of anger proved to be negative. Even jealousy provides positives aspects within a relationship. One needs to be open to the exploration of what they feel to see how jealousy can be channeled in a beneficial direction. Let's see three up sides of jealousy.

Jealousy as a Fence

Being attuned to the indications of jealous demonstrates healthy boundaries within a particular relationship. Couples with open communication are able to share what they need, how a partner or their own jealousy makes them feel and potential damage caused by manifestations of jealousy. Only by talking about it can couples identify the healthy boundaries of the emotion. Without discussion, jealousy morphs into an insidious beast tearing at the tender parts of a relationship.

Jealousy as a Carrot

Everyone requires motivation. Sometimes the carrot leading the to the reward can be positive to reinforce a behavior. However, people are equally motivated by unproductive behaviors. Jealousy can bring about change for the better. How is this possible? Consider the following:

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Finding the Good Side of Jealousy 

* Caring Expressions: Jealousy, though charged with underlying passion, may cause partners to be too rough. Seeing the fallout will motivate tempered expressions of love.

* Fiery Attention: Cultivating deep care keeps the molten aspects of jealousy from burning a partner. A challenge arises when only the raw jealousy comes out.

* Witnessing an Alternate View: Jealousy is triggered by a party outside the relationship. This allows for a fresh perspective and reminder of the things drawing one to their partner to begin with.

Jealousy as a Compass Needle

A famous quotes regarding clarity center around the simplicity needed as a foundation. Almost nothing distills an idea into its simplest form like white hot emotions like jealousy. Couples can see what really matters when one or both of them succumb to the power of their jealousy. Once they know the direction they need to travel, they can set the destructive aspects of jealousy aside preventing it from poisoning the relationship beyond repair.

All emotions, whether traditionally lauded or vilified, possess the potential to help and hurt relationships. Communications in all areas presents the ideal foil to deflate the damage presented by rampant jealousy. Partners must balance what they feel against the truth presented by their existing relationship. They can utilize the boundaries, motivations and directions offered by jealousy. Success only comes to fruition when couples grow together with an awareness toward their own shortcomings without being crippled by them.

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tisdag 18 oktober 2016

Expectations Before an Ex's Return

In this day and age, couples with an existing history can find themselves back together. The time apart makes reestablishing the relationship or even moving back in with one another infinitely more challenging. For this reason, couples need to set realistic expectations and boundaries to prevent a fiery repeat of the past. The steps couples undergo are simple and critical allowing for a possible future.

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Balance

Couples need to determine how to set a balance between what occurred before and the future. The tenuous nature of the present post break up leads to circumstances where either one may feel they need to behave differently from their natural tendencies. A verbal agreement might assist in moving forward where the past is resolved without damage to the impending path before the pair.

Space

Even those closest before a separation, regardless of the reason, will need to negotiate the space they share. The funny thing about space is it does not always refer to square footage of a residency. Relationships have emotional and intimate spaces where each person requires a level of safety to form in a functioning couple. Initially, one may want or need more room or assurance of stability. This can be a slow growth area and forces couples to deal honestly with one another.

Return of Trouble

Establishing how to deal with conflict in the future must be hashed out prior to reestablishment of the relationship. Everyone wants to believe they are falling into a pairing with their ideal mate. Unfortunately, things never go smoothly all the time. If such bliss were easy there would be no need for things like apology cards, flowers and homemade meals with cupcakes spelling "I'm Sorry." Ignoring future trouble only compounds things, so it is better to address things early.

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Expectations Before an Ex's Return

Communication

Everyone thinks they possess a lock on good communication. They know what to say in every situation and can hear the truth behind the words professed by their partner. While this overly rosy view of things feels right, couples often note communication is the one area they struggle the most. Sharing things, especially the hard stuff, means being honest with oneself and a partner. Making communication a priority is a must if a couple settles back into a relationship.

Find Peace

One of the most difficult things in getting back together centers around peace and contentment. This becomes harder if there has been a significant betrayal like infidelity or abuse. Couples must take a hard look at what needs to be overcome. If the mountain proves too high to scale, they may come to the conclusion they are unable be together. This expectation generally proves the hardest of all because even the people who may believe they are meant to be together may never locate the serene place where they are able to grow as an individual and as a couple.

Expectations permit those seeking to reestablish a terminated relationship to reenter with clear vision and hope for the future. Each aspect requires hard work. Often couples wilt under the pressure of one of these components. If they rush, the couple will find themselves trapped in an unhappy situation which they may wish never existed. They are better off investing with hard work at the beginning while hoping for the best moving forward.

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