torsdag 29 december 2016

Reinvigorating Self Esteem Post Break Up

The emotional blow brought about by the ending of a relationship, especially one with deep roots, tends to shatter even the strongest foundations of self esteem. People begin to question why it happened, if they are worthy of love and where their true value lies. These questions force the person to stare deep within themselves for the answers. Simple responses like "time heals all wounds" or "there are other fish in the sea" never reach the darker corners causing people to wrestle with themselves in the middle of the night. Fortunately, steps can be taken to repair the damage done to the self esteem because of a break up.

Establish Your Value

Following the end of the relationship, someone might find it challenging to see how they matter. The initial step centers around discovering where true value lies. The first pass of this step needs to be done alone. After taking time and fully considering one's value, they can then take their insights to a trusted friend or counselor. People rarely, if ever, possess a clear picture of themselves. They might discount important components of themselves, so they need an outside view.

Aspects of Values to Consider

Values Rarely Change: It might be easier to view these as the elements making up someone's personality and character. They might mellow or intensify with stress or calm, but values almost never vanish.

Values Run in Packs: Clusters of values swirl around making up the whole person. Finding one will usually bring another to the surface.

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Reinvigorating Self Esteem Post Break Up

Values Scream and Whisper: When on the search, some values will be obvious like those who place a high value on their care of others. Sneakier values duck and hide fearing their exposure might cause pain. All the values are important, even the ones not wanting to be found.

Working in the Now

Taking time for oneself is critical following a break up. In the cauldron of the emotional turmoil, one can find the things pointing them toward a smarter, kinder and wiser version of themselves. Some important parts of this process need to be remembered.

* Patience: Everything will not be better or revealed overnight. Quick answers will not bring lasting comfort.
* Compassion: Being kind to oneself can be one of the greatest challenges because lashing inward proves easy.
* Perspective: The past is a guide and not a template for all things in the future. Learn without clinging.

Avoid Shortcuts

Following the break up and when hurting deeply, one may struggle to salve the wounds with things to tamp down the pain. Relying on distractions, even good distractions, will prolong the time spent trying to bring the self esteem to a healthy place. Using repetitive, numbing actions only give temporary boosts or blankets to one's view of their self worth.

Self esteem is like a tree with times of flourishing and times of pruning. One can view a break up as a way to see what is truly important and where their true value lies. By focusing during this time, one will be ready for the next relationship while taking comfort in being alone. Also, a strong self esteem permits anyone to stand secure in who they are.

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söndag 30 oktober 2016

Finding the Good Side of Jealousy

People tend to categorize things into binary sides of a page. Doing so means they need to expend less effort in decoding how they feel, understand the impact a decision may have or judge the response of others to their actions. This behavior exists in several areas, not the least of which is emotions. Ask people to come up with lists of good and bad feelings and the common denominators will form. On the bad side of the page, emotions like anger, covetousness and jealousy will likely be in the top three.


Understanding each emotion contains a wide range of reasons for its existence. Looking back over time, not every expression of anger proved to be negative. Even jealousy provides positives aspects within a relationship. One needs to be open to the exploration of what they feel to see how jealousy can be channeled in a beneficial direction. Let's see three up sides of jealousy.

Jealousy as a Fence

Being attuned to the indications of jealous demonstrates healthy boundaries within a particular relationship. Couples with open communication are able to share what they need, how a partner or their own jealousy makes them feel and potential damage caused by manifestations of jealousy. Only by talking about it can couples identify the healthy boundaries of the emotion. Without discussion, jealousy morphs into an insidious beast tearing at the tender parts of a relationship.

Jealousy as a Carrot

Everyone requires motivation. Sometimes the carrot leading the to the reward can be positive to reinforce a behavior. However, people are equally motivated by unproductive behaviors. Jealousy can bring about change for the better. How is this possible? Consider the following:

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Finding the Good Side of Jealousy 

* Caring Expressions: Jealousy, though charged with underlying passion, may cause partners to be too rough. Seeing the fallout will motivate tempered expressions of love.

* Fiery Attention: Cultivating deep care keeps the molten aspects of jealousy from burning a partner. A challenge arises when only the raw jealousy comes out.

* Witnessing an Alternate View: Jealousy is triggered by a party outside the relationship. This allows for a fresh perspective and reminder of the things drawing one to their partner to begin with.

Jealousy as a Compass Needle

A famous quotes regarding clarity center around the simplicity needed as a foundation. Almost nothing distills an idea into its simplest form like white hot emotions like jealousy. Couples can see what really matters when one or both of them succumb to the power of their jealousy. Once they know the direction they need to travel, they can set the destructive aspects of jealousy aside preventing it from poisoning the relationship beyond repair.

All emotions, whether traditionally lauded or vilified, possess the potential to help and hurt relationships. Communications in all areas presents the ideal foil to deflate the damage presented by rampant jealousy. Partners must balance what they feel against the truth presented by their existing relationship. They can utilize the boundaries, motivations and directions offered by jealousy. Success only comes to fruition when couples grow together with an awareness toward their own shortcomings without being crippled by them.

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tisdag 18 oktober 2016

Expectations Before an Ex's Return

In this day and age, couples with an existing history can find themselves back together. The time apart makes reestablishing the relationship or even moving back in with one another infinitely more challenging. For this reason, couples need to set realistic expectations and boundaries to prevent a fiery repeat of the past. The steps couples undergo are simple and critical allowing for a possible future.

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Balance

Couples need to determine how to set a balance between what occurred before and the future. The tenuous nature of the present post break up leads to circumstances where either one may feel they need to behave differently from their natural tendencies. A verbal agreement might assist in moving forward where the past is resolved without damage to the impending path before the pair.

Space

Even those closest before a separation, regardless of the reason, will need to negotiate the space they share. The funny thing about space is it does not always refer to square footage of a residency. Relationships have emotional and intimate spaces where each person requires a level of safety to form in a functioning couple. Initially, one may want or need more room or assurance of stability. This can be a slow growth area and forces couples to deal honestly with one another.

Return of Trouble

Establishing how to deal with conflict in the future must be hashed out prior to reestablishment of the relationship. Everyone wants to believe they are falling into a pairing with their ideal mate. Unfortunately, things never go smoothly all the time. If such bliss were easy there would be no need for things like apology cards, flowers and homemade meals with cupcakes spelling "I'm Sorry." Ignoring future trouble only compounds things, so it is better to address things early.

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Expectations Before an Ex's Return

Communication

Everyone thinks they possess a lock on good communication. They know what to say in every situation and can hear the truth behind the words professed by their partner. While this overly rosy view of things feels right, couples often note communication is the one area they struggle the most. Sharing things, especially the hard stuff, means being honest with oneself and a partner. Making communication a priority is a must if a couple settles back into a relationship.

Find Peace

One of the most difficult things in getting back together centers around peace and contentment. This becomes harder if there has been a significant betrayal like infidelity or abuse. Couples must take a hard look at what needs to be overcome. If the mountain proves too high to scale, they may come to the conclusion they are unable be together. This expectation generally proves the hardest of all because even the people who may believe they are meant to be together may never locate the serene place where they are able to grow as an individual and as a couple.

Expectations permit those seeking to reestablish a terminated relationship to reenter with clear vision and hope for the future. Each aspect requires hard work. Often couples wilt under the pressure of one of these components. If they rush, the couple will find themselves trapped in an unhappy situation which they may wish never existed. They are better off investing with hard work at the beginning while hoping for the best moving forward.

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måndag 19 september 2016

Ticking Clock to Get Back with an Ex

Rekindling a romance hits countless hurdles. One rarely addressed is how long does one have to reestablish a relationship with an ex. Though other questions exist, one needs to take time to evaluate multiple factors before rushing back into a situation filled with concerned. Taking a walk down this path requires a few steps before answering the question of how long become too long to return to an ex.

Factors to Consider First

A hard look at the past may provide a clearer picture as to the challenges facing someone attempting to reenter an ex's life. Seemingly elementary, most people skip this step for multiple reasons. Perhaps they are driven by loneliness to see their ex as someone they are not. Or things ended in a state of ambivalence, they wonder how the new relationship may mimic the previous attempt. Two important things to consider give a clear indication of how to proceed.


Way Things Ended: The parting shows the way things were during the course of a relationship. Pain over the end can cloud judgement. Seeing how each person left and the things said will help prognosticate how likely things will begin again.

* With A Whimper: An amicable ending often leaves the door open for a second pass.
* A Low Rumbling: Things might need some time to pass before one and their ex may consider reconnecting.
* Global Thermal Nuclear War: Accusations, shouting and broken belongs bode ill for any return relational status.

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Ticking Clock to Get Back with an Ex 

Current Relational Status: As with any romantic foray, those who have moved to another individual tend to not look back at past relationships. If the ex has found another person and is making a life with them, no amount of time will be appropriate while they remain together.

Managing Expectations

This can be challenging for people because of the dual fronts being evaluated. First, the relationship itself, both past and future, need to be treated as a new thing. This means setting aside past hurts and joys while taking it on face value allowing it to grow naturally. Second, one's own excitement or reticence drive expectations into unrealistic areas. Hope, love, pain and disappointment can supercharge how a person views things moving forward.

And The Answer Is

Reading stories of those reconnecting with high school sweethearts and rekindling relationships thought long dead provides the greatest indicator of expiration dates on relationships. Truly, connection and love overcome almost any barrier, even time. The constructed concern about it being too long is valid only in light of other, more important, factors. Time grows to be more an excuse rather than a true hurdle to getting back with one's ex.

This means if the relationship is right, even if it has been a while since each person went their separate ways, it can be rekindled and flourish. A wise person capable of considering all the key factors and managing their expectations opens up an opportunity to love with someone they know and care for. They need courage most of all to not let their own fear stop them from taking the risk.

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söndag 4 september 2016

Tailoring a Dating Profile to Attract the Right Man

Computer dating sites sprang up as a replacement to matchmakers and nights of cold calling for potential mates at local bars and clubs. Technology eases the act of meeting. However, the onus falls to the person presenting themselves online, maybe even more so than in person, because of ways the dating profile can be customized. This means knowing what to include and responding to feedback becomes ever more critical to increase the opportunity to meet the right guy and not just a guy.

Closing Down Avenues

The laundry list of people and characteristics available through online sites means the weave of the net can be incredibly tight. Age, lifestyle, faith and other criteria lock people into certain categories from the outset. This means a site aggregating those of a particular religion may never meet someone of a different worldview.


Because of this segmenting, the profile presented should remain as open as possible to allow as many people to see it. Striking too many options from a particular list means stopping someone from hitting reply. One of psychological hurdles facing everyone centers around the belief what they want for themselves is paramount and "right." Loosening the restrictions does not mean low to no standards. It permits the opportunity to meet someone who may show a new way of looking at the world to see if they are the right person.

Open to Fun

Stressing serious, even foundational, matters at the initial introduction torpedoes any future meeting. The profile exists in a space closer to a greeting. For this reason, hot button issues and dark moments from one's past have no place on a dating profile. Here are some ways to hue closer to the light side and giving a chance for deeper sharing further down the line.

Tailoring a Dating Profile to Attract the Right Man

* Picture: Big smile, out of the house and in the sun if possible. Several sites allow multiple photos, so have a variety.
* Activities: Select a few hobbies presenting a variety of interests. Everyone likes movies, but hikers and artists can stand out.
* Clever: Take some time to personalize the profile with the real aspects of your personality. If you like a historical quote or your detailed pumpkin carving, use it.

Emphasize "Dating with Purpose"

Men reading dating profiles seek women who desire a meeting while not on an endless carousel of dates. The reason you both signed up to the site centers on finding someone and growing together. If not, there are other sites for more casual encounters. Take the dating part seriously. Meet people, go out and have fun. Someone in in a dating loop may need to reassess the profile and intent of being on the site.

All of these suggestions can feel as though you are being asked to be something you are not. Ultimately, you need to be honest on your profile, with yourself and those who respond. Take your time because rushing things will only yield greater dry spells and dates with the wrong guys. The goal should be to find someone you want to spend all your time with. So craft the right message and let the dating sites help you find the right one.

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tisdag 5 juli 2016

Three Areas Pointing to the End of a Relationship

Three Areas Pointing to the End of a Relationship

Every couple longs for eternity. Unfortunately, forever challenges all couples regardless of how they started, what they have survived and the best of intentions. Being able to spot when things are coming off the rails in a relationship will allow everyone to assess what needs to be done to salvage it and if they wish to invest the time.

Area One: Communication

Communication is held up as the best barometer for telling the status of a relationship. Part of this stems from how pervasive an aspect of the whole relationship communication turns out to be. So how can a couple tell if trouble is brewing in the arena of communication?

All Is Quiet: Long, uncomfortable silences charged with tension define the time spent together. This may occur because one of the pair feels no desire to expend the energy to engage in healthy communication.



Swimming in the Shallow End: When discussions happen, the topics remain light or non threatening. Short and unemotional answers replace detailed explanations of troubles at work or pleasant things noted in the world.

Explosive Endings: If deeper conversational topic arise, couples on the brink devolve in to yelling and name calling rather than pursuing the underlying issue. It is often surprising how much energy those who want to fight can find.

Area Two: Affection

Affection takes many forms. Some of the most obvious center around the physical. While a good space to begin the search, couples concerned about the health of their relationship need to look beyond the easiest to disguise. Couple in failing relationships may seek physical pleasure when nothing else works.

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Three Areas Pointing to the End of a Relationship

Loss of Physicality: Outside of intimate physicality, couples nearing the end find no comfort or pleasure in the touch of one another. They are less likely to hold hands, hug, kiss or snuggle. These little gestures demonstrate how far apart they are.

Inequality of Time: Healthy couples spend time with one another and apart. Conversely, unhealthy relations tip towards more time apart. It can have reasonable explanations, but the separation shows how disconnected the partners are.

No Kind Acts: Recalling a time where love bloomed and blossomed, these couples may have made a cup of tea, offered a foot rub or other gestures just because. Every couple, even the harried, need to reach out in special ways. If such things evaporate, the couple needs to be concerned.

Area Three: Future

Couples nearing the end report findings themselves on a relational treadmill from which they cannot remove themselves. Seasons of staleness in long relationships are natural for a brief period and all couples face them. As thing wind down, one or both of the partners see no future with this person. They might even begin planning for life without the other person. Such behavior might manifest as searching for apartments in another area of the city, applying for work in another region or living a separate life. A couple not growing toward a future together, in some form or fashion, dies where they stand.

When the end comes, being honest and having a talk can be the hardest thing to do. Couples would prefer not acknowledge this because of feeling like failure or not knowing what is next. Ultimately, things ending respectfully eases the transition to the next phase. Everyone would rather feel strong and healthy moving forward, so have the talk.

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tisdag 15 mars 2016

Three Big Mistakes After a Break Up

Recovering from the end of a relationship means the person in the midst of their pain must take steps to resist falling into some classic behavioral patterns placing them at greater risk in the future. It is easy at first pass to believe recovering from the heartbreak is paramount. While the importance of emotional recovery cannot be ignored, individuals need their wits about them to move to healthier place.

One: Running From the World

Hurt people long to reduce pain by removing themselves from the world. They equate contact with risk. On a rudimentary level, they are not incorrect. They have to come into contact with others to be hurt. Three drawbacks of isolation include the following.



* Being alone causes the person to grow comfortable with lack of contact making reintegration into society more difficult.
* With only themselves around, their view of the world becomes decidedly one sided.
* Isolated people see no benefit in having others in their lives, either platonic or romantic.

The temptation to flee is great because of how easy a decision it is. Being a simple solution does not make it the best.

Two: Apathy Is Not An Answer

A more extreme form of isolation centers around apathy for all things. It might start with things in the outside world. It becomes a bigger concern when the lack of care turns inward. A person unable to see their own self worth means some of the energy spurring forward momentum and change spills into destructive behavior like self flagellation or starvation.


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Three Big Mistakes After a Break Up 

Lacking self care can be a sign of a deeper problem. Those not taking steps to feed, clothe and clean themselves and punctuate their actions with a litany of self talk centered around how they do not deserve to survive or move forward prove to be at very high risk for serious pain moving forward. It may sound dramatic. It is often the loudest who is unable to call for help themselves.

Three: Emotional Self Harm

At its most extreme, those suffering the deepest seek to harm themselves or others. Because of the nature of the pain and the fact everyone suffers with it one time or another, it can be difficult to lend sufficient weight to the serious matter. Two clear patterns exist. Let's look at them both.

Hanging On: These people are unable to release the relationship. They try to cling to their former partner regardless of the pain of living a lie. Only by coping with the loss can they person let go of the other and begin moving forward.

Lashing Out: This collection of behaviors seek to do the most harm by word and action. It can be difficult to differentiate between healthy progression of recovery and more acidic venom. A clear voice may give a clearer perspective, but it will need to be delivered in a harsh manner.

In the end, people in pain need to acknowledge their state and seek peace and stability. Such movement brings about pain greater than the loss of the relationship. It often helps for people to understand they are not their pain or their circumstances, no matter how easy it is to believe. They find peace to grow beyond the moment and let go of the pain and event surrounding to break up. This is the only way they can love again.


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