lördag 31 maj 2014

What Do Men Need from the Women They Love?

Men really do have simple needs when it comes to relationships. Despite their resistance to change, men have adapted well to the falling away from "love, honor, and obey" (mostly the obey part of that to be honest) as the commandment of all things relationship. However, that doesn't imply that they don't have needs of their own that must be addressed in order for them to remain happy in their marriages. In fact, men have very strong needs - though he'll likely never explain them to you. There are three overriding needs, though, that every girl needs to understand and meet in order to have a truly happy relationship with the man she loves.

1) Show Him Respect

You don't have to bow down before him or anything like that. You don't even need to defer to him, although, at the proper moments in the relationship this can really stroke his ego and make him fall even harder in love with you. The main ways to show respect are in how you interact. Don't talk down to him. Don't make him feel inferior. And for goodness sakes, avoid criticism -- especially in the form of nagging -- at all costs. This makes him feel as though you're looking down on him and lack respect for him. It leads to "greener grass syndrome" and other negative feelings about you and your relationship.



It's hard ladies, to get him to do what you want sometimes. That's usually a sign that he really doesn't want to do the job - whatever the job may be. So, you have three choices that don't involve nagging. Make him an offer that makes it worth his while to get the chore done by a specific time or date, do it yourself without holding a grudge (which may be easier said than done), or hire someone else to do it for the sake of the relationship. Even when money is tight, it's sometimes better to pay someone else to do the jobs neither of you are willing to do, but both want done. The respect you're both able to maintain for each other by doing this is worth its weight in gold.

2) Admiration

Think long and hard. When was the first time you paid your handsome man a compliment? How about flirting? Do you engage in a little active flirting when you're out in public, riding in the car, through text messages at the office? When was the last time you let him know that you still think he rocks his Levi's? Little things like this make a huge difference to the man in your life and in your relationship.

3) Loyalty

Never let him doubt your loyalty. There's no bigger relationship killer for men than this. Don't flirt with his best friend - or anyone else for that matter - in an attempt to make him jealous. It will backfire on you every time. Don't let him overhear you talking negatively about him around the girls. Show loyalty at all times and you can expect to receive the same kind of loyalty from him in return.

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torsdag 22 maj 2014

How to Deal with Seeing Your Ex Unexpectedly

You got the wind knocked out of your sails with the breakup. You had a few rough days, weeks, maybe even months. But, you finally started getting back out there in the real world. 

You're hitting the town with your friends. You're working out at the gym. And you're trying like mad to at least look like you're getting on with your life - no matter how much you want her back.

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You're doing good. You're looking good. Girls are starting to smile and flirt with you. You're Superman.

Then BAM! 

Out of the blue, she walks into the room and it feels like you've been hit in the gut with a kryptonite fist.

Your mouth gets dry. Your palms get sweaty. Your tongue suddenly feels like it weighs a thousand pounds and you're caught between a sudden overwhelming urge to flee and a simultaneous but equally powerful urge to beg her to take you back. 

What do you do?

You say something about how it's great to see her and make a hasty retreat.



It's only after you're out of her presence that you begin to think of all the things you could have, should have, or would have said if you'd been able to think clearly at the time.

Then you engage in a fantasy replay of how things would have shaken out if you'd just been able to speak. But, wouldn't it be nice if you could  think of these things ahead of time and have a good idea of what to say to her when the moment arrives? 

Believe me it would! Especially if you're interested in getting her back.
Stop getting sucker punched by her presence. Take back the power and let her see you in a new light. You can control the conversation and how it plays out as long as you plan ahead for when that moment comes.

I'm not talking about arranging an "accidental" meeting. That's not the right idea in this situation. But, you do want to have a plan for what you'll say to her when your paths do cross so that you don't look like you're either avoiding her, running away from her, or angry with her for the breakup.

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Time heals a lot of old wounds. You might be surprised to discover that she's probably just as nervous about the encounter as you are - even though she's the one who broke up with you. 

So what should you say?

1) Keep it short. 
2) Keep it light.
3) Avoid bringing up the past - leave that to her.

Keep these things in mind. Write a script for yourself. Memorize the script. Practice it in the mirror. Do whatever you have to do so that it's second nature and the next time your paths cross you'll be ready.

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tisdag 20 maj 2014

The Lost Art of Flirting - How to Drive Him Wild With or Without Words

When you first started dating, flirting came easily. Almost every tilt of your head, bat of your eyelashes, and word you said was some form of flirtation. Whether your intention was sheer playfulness or some form of subtle seduction, flirting was the language of the day - and what an effective language it was! 

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Over time, you left your flirting ways behind. Whether it was the fact that you felt confident in your "catch" or you simply thought you'd moved beyond the playful beginnings into a more serious and "adult" relationship. 

I saw "Hogwash!" 

You don't have to give up playfulness and fun simply because you're now married. You may have caught the prize you sought but that doesn't mean you don't need to work a little bit to keep his interest and attention. Subtle and not-so-subtle flirting reminds your husband that you are still interested, makes him feel desired by you, and reminds you just how much fun being in a relationship can be. The more marriage feels like fun, the less it will feel like work.

It may have been a while since you've flirted with your husband. Here are a few reminders about old tricks, and perhaps a few new tricks, that will drive him wild.




* Leave naughty little notes in his lunch box. It will perk up his day and let him know that you're thinking of him.
* Send sexy text messages to him while he's at work. There's nothing that will have him raring to go when he gets home faster than little teasers throughout the day of what's to come when he gets home.
* Dress to impress on your next date night. You know what he likes. Give it to him. It costs you nothing and lets him know you still think he's worth impressing.
* Play footsie with him! Sounds a little silly but it can really get his engine going.
* Smack his bottom. It worked for Austin Powers! More importantly, it tells him you're still noticing.
* Touch him. Even non-sexual touching is a huge turn on for guys. Remember when you first started dating? You went for any excuse just to touch him. Whether it was touching his arm, laying your head on his shoulders, or just holding hands you couldn't get enough of touching him. Over time, things cooled down and touch became perfunctory. Make it fun and flirty all over again.
* Tell him what you want - what you really, really want in a place where he'll have to wait to get it. It will be on his mind the entire time and the anticipation will light real fireworks when you're finally able to make good on that whispered promise.

Flirting might be a lost art, but you can bring it back into your marriage. If you're going through a bit of a dry spell, this may very well be the cure. At the very least, it will return an old dynamic to your relationship that may yield surprising results.


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måndag 19 maj 2014

Making up in the Movies - Why Doesn't it Really Work That Way?

You've seen it happen in the movies dozens, if not hundreds of time. Boy meets girl. Girl falls in love with boy. Boy breaks girl's heart (mean boy!). Girl breaks up with boy. Boy makes heroic effort with giant 1980's boom boxes, saying "hello," flying a jet, and countless other antics to win her heart back. The problem is, one person is writing the script for both of them in the movies. They're playing pre-defined roles and following cues. Real life doesn't quite work that way. 

Lack of Originality

Unfortunately, a lot of guys haven't gotten the memo. You're still trying to use moves that have been used before. Sadly, these are moves the girls you're trying to get back together with already know about too.

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Your ex doesn't want you to copy something that's been done before. If you're going to make a move to get her back, it had better, at the very least, be original. It needs to be something she hasn't seen before. It also needs to be something that you would do. It needs to appear sincere. Using movie lines as your guide makes her feel as though she isn't 
important enough to you for something original. 

Not Appropriate for Your Situation

Every relationship is different. Every breakup is somewhat unique. You can be having the same arguments as 10,000 other couples around the world, but there are things about the two of you and your situation that make those same arguments and situations unique.



No matter what the reason for the breakup was, your situation is different than Harry and Sally's (When Harry Met Sally), Joe and Kathleen's (You've Got Mail), Maverick and Charlie's (Top Gun), and Pat and Tiffany's (Silver Linings Playbook). You need to take the time and make the effort to come up with something unique and specific to your romantic situation. More importantly, it needs to be something that will matter to her and melt her heart.

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That is, of course, if you're going for movie magic effects. However, you could do something else altogether. Something she may even find curious and shocking. You could let her go -- at least for a little while. Instead of going after the girl, give her a little time to think things through. 

Absence really does make the heart grow fonder. Then, after a little time has passed, chances are you won't need to call her. She'll call you. When that happens, you can both enjoy a happy ending that's much better than anything Hollywood could come up with because it's the story that belongs to the two of you and no one else.

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torsdag 15 maj 2014

What Should I Tell Him On A First Date

Everyone has those embarrassing moments in life. You simply can’t get around it. You know, like those times when your date’s fly is open and you’re not sure if you should say anything or not. This one can actually be a bit tricky when you think about it. Say it’s your first date with this guy. Do you really want to tell him something quite as personal as this when you don’t even know him all that well? Will he appreciate it if you do say something? Is it right for you to let him go around everywhere that evening on your date with his fly open? 

One of the things that you should go by when trying to resolve this dilemma is what sort of guy you’re dating. If he’s laid back and has a great sense of humor, you’re probably going to be fine in telling him that his fly is open. In fact, you’ll both probably have a great laugh about it. On the other hand, if the guy’s a bit shy or something, you probably want to find a different way to let him know that he needs to zip up his fly. However, no matter what you do, he’s probably going to die of embarrassment and you may never see him again. 



Another one of those first date embarrassing moments is when your date has something huge and green caught between his front teeth. Do you say something or do you just let it go and hope he notices it on his own, eventually? Again, this is going to depend on the guy’s personality. Consider if it was you in that situation. Would you want to be told by a new date? Proceed accordingly when you think about it. 
Then, there’s that perfectly natural, yet perfectly humiliating event of passing gas. Men typically don’t mind doing this in front of anyone, even new women that they’re dating. In fact, some of them will even call attention to it just in case you missed it and make raucous jokes about it. Obviously, these men aren’t going to mind if you discreetly cover your nose and mouth with your hand or napkin. Suppose you’re dating a man that’s rather self-conscious about things and he erupts loudly during dinner. Do you just keep talking and pretend that you didn’t hear the minor volcanic explosion? Do you giggle a little and make some cute remark, whatever that might be?  This one is where you should simply follow his lead as there’s really no graceful way to get around it. 
Yes, first dates can be very exciting and fun. They can also present some rather comical and embarrassing situations. You just have to figure out what you’re going to do if any of these happen to turn up on your first date with this guy. In the end, if you have doubts as to how to handle it, go along with the way the guy wants to deal with it. That seems to be the best answer. 

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onsdag 14 maj 2014

Its Me Or The Dog

How many times have you heard the phrase “It’s me or the dog?” Most of the time it’s said in a joking manner, but there are those occasions that when these words are uttered, they’re totally serious. It may not be such a big deal unless it’s someone that you’re hoping to have a romantic relationship. Seriously, you can say “Ok, bye” to your friend, your brother, sister or even a parent. But when it comes to someone that you’re attracted to and want to go further with, it’s a lot more difficult to just wave goodbye. 

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Obviously, if you’ve got a pet, then you love animals. This is a very good quality in you. People that love animals are generally very good people. Taking that into consideration, turn that thinking in another direction. What does the fact that your person of interest doesn’t like animals say about him? Doesn’t it make you feel as if you should be looking at him a bit more closely? If someone has no love for animals, there’s usually a very huge hole within them somewhere. 

Take a very close look at this person that seems to hate your pet. How does your pet react around him? Animals are pretty good at picking up on whether or not people like them. If your pet is somewhat hostile to your new friend, there’s probably a reason. However, on the other hand, if this guy keeps claiming that he doesn’t like dogs, for instance, but your dog keeps trying to sit on his lap and lick his face, chances are that this guy is trying to sell you a bill of goods. In this instance, the more time that your dog and your man spend together, they will most likely become fast friends before you know it. 



You also have to consider that if your man is telling you that he LOVES dogs but all your dog wants to do is bite him and growl at him, you need to consider that he just might be lying to you. Also, if he’s lying to you about that, then what else might he be lying to you about? Your dog could be protecting you from getting involved with a less than savory character. 

In the end, though, you’re the only one that can decide if you want to throw over your loyal pet in favor of a new guy that may or may not work out. Before you make the rash choice to take your once beloved pet to the pound, consider what a great companion he has been to you. He’s probably outlasted several boyfriends already, and he just might have outlasted this one, too. Think it all through very carefully because there are not guarantees that this guy is going to be “the one.” Even if he does have potential, just how much could you possibly have in common with someone that isn’t going to allow you to have a pet if you’re going to be with him? Don’t be shocked if he brings home a pet snake one day. That’s when you’ll know that you probably should have kept your dog. 

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tisdag 13 maj 2014

Nice Guy Versus The Pick Up Artist

There are a lot of guys out there that are looking for nothing but a one night stand. These are the guys that pick up those mentally deficient eBooks about being a pick-up artist and think they can get any woman they want. The sad thing is that there are so many of these guys in the world that it basically ruins the chances for an actual nice guy to go out and find a woman that he intends to spend the rest of his life with. These guys basically have no chance because the self-proclaimed pick-up kings have already ruined it for the nice guy.

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The difference between a pick-up artist and a nice guy are the same as night and day. The artist will try corny lines and then ignore the woman they are interested in while the nice guy will attempt to buy her a drink. The artist will sit there and talk about all of his accomplishments, most of which are completely made up, while the nice guy is going to be willing to sit and listen to the woman talk about her likes and dislikes. Of course, the nice guy hardly ever gets his chance to do any of this.



Pick-up artists will attempt to get as many women as they possibly can in one night. It’s a lot easier to hit on hundreds of women and get one to go home with you rather than trying to focus on one woman all night long. This means that by the time the nice guy shows up at the bar or club, the women there have already been hit on by every artist in town. After a while, they will get tired of it and shoot down the nice guy before he even attempts to get to know them.

Being a pick-up artist may seem like a great thing for some guys, but the reality is far different from what you might think. Sure, you can have some one night stands here and there, but you are never going to be happy with that in the end. There comes a time when all you really want is someone to talk to and to be with, and when that time comes you aren't going to be able to find that special woman to share those moments with. That’s mainly because other artists have already helped build the wall around that woman.

So remember this; when it comes time for you to want a relationship, you need to think back to all the weird and annoying things you used to do as a pick-up artist so that you can understand why women want nothing to do with you anymore. It might have been fun while you were younger, but eventually you are going to grow up and realize that you are completely alone and that is never going to change for you. Women want the nice guy and they want the pick-up artist to go away and let the nice guy have a chance one in a while.

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söndag 11 maj 2014

Spotting A Stalker

Stalking has become one of the top criminal offenses in recent years and the statistics keep climbing. A lot of people want to blame this on the introduction of the Internet but the truth is that stalking has been going on many years before anyone ever heard of in home computers. Honestly, stalking has most likely been going on since the days of the cavemen. Of course, THOSE guys simply TOOK the women they wanted, and that was that. Things are a lot different now in spite of the fact that most stalkers still have that caveman mentality. Granted, anyone can be at risk for becoming a victim of a stalker. However, people that are active in the dating scene tend to be more susceptible. That’s not meant to be critical of people that enjoy dating. It’s just that these people are exposed to the possibility more. 


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Many of these victims found themselves as the object of a stalker after beginning an online friendship. It really doesn’t matter whether these friendships stayed online or evolved into face to face meetings. If someone is Internet savvy enough, they can find out anything they want to know about someone. The only way you can be positive of being one hundred percent safe from people discovering things about you is if you hold a high government job. Even then, all of your secrets may not be safe. 

With online dating being so prevalent these days, it’s important to take some extra precautions. Now, women are typically the most common victims of stalking but there have been plenty of cases reported where men were the victims. That just means that everyone, no matter what gender you are or what your sexual persuasion is, should always exercise caution when meeting someone new. 




While a lot of times, the stalker seems perfectly normal at first, there may still be small signs that something’s a bit off. For example, if he starts immediately planning a future with you on the first date, you may want to back off pretty fast. Anytime someone attaches to you that quickly, it means something isn’t right. 

It’s not always that easy to spot these abnormalities, but if you find yourself constantly “running into” someone even in out of the way places, there’s a good chance you’re being followed and don’t realize it. If someone keeps calling you even though you’re constantly getting a new unlisted number, you might be in trouble. Also, don’t discount the arrival of unwanted gifts, although once things get to this stage, you’re probably going to need the help of the police and a restraining order. 

Something that you can usually spot in the beginning, though, is the way he looks at you. There’s an intensity that has no business being there so soon. If you notice this, or your intuition just tells you that something’s not right, don’t hesitate to cut off all contact on your end. The faster you do it the better.

Don’t feel dumb, though, if you do happen to attract a stalker. There are many instances in where you don’t even realize that you’ve come into contact with someone of this nature. It could simply be someone you passed in the grocery store or rode the subway with. Sometimes there’s just no way to know, but by following a few common sense rules, you can keep yourself safer. 

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lördag 10 maj 2014

Talk It Out

One of the most important things to have in your relationship is good communication. There are going to be times in your life when communicating to your partner could end up saving you a lot of hassle and sleepless nights on the couch. You have to realize that if you don’t talk about your differences or issues in a conversational tone, you are going to end up making things even worse for a bit of time. Things like that happen way too often in relationships, and it's up to you to put a stop to it so that the two of you can be happy gain.

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How many times have you had the chance to tell your partner that they were doing something you didn’t like and it ended up in a heated argument? This type of thing happens to everyone, and there is no way of telling when the next big blow out is going to happen. You just have to be prepared for anything that might be said and figure out a way of getting around the harsher aspects of that argument the best way that you can. But you shouldn’t let things sit inside and build up, either.

If you absolutely need to tell your partner how you feel about something, then you have to do it in a way that doesn’t cause them to become defensive. Defensiveness makes a conversation become one sided and that will get you nowhere fast. You will end up yelling at each other and throwing blame around like water on a house fire. The only problem is you will only have a tiny tea cup of water and that fire will continue to flame out of control every time you toss more water on it. You have to be able to stop an argument before it gets to that point.




 


There really is no reason for anyone to argue. Most civilized people are able to have a conversation and point out ways that things could be better for both parties. You have to think in those terms and realize that most of the issues you are having with your partner have something to do with the way you are acting as well. You need to take responsibility for the things that you are doing wrong and try to resolve them in a way that makes your partner happy before you start pointing fingers at them.

Everyone has failings with who they are, and there are a lot of couples that don’t agree on things in life. This is something that you are just going to have to accept and live with if you want your relationship to work out for the best. But that doesn’t mean you can't bring some things up that you would like your partner to change and ask them what you could change about yourself to make things a bit more even. Compromise is a key ingredient to communication and it's something you are going to find yourself doing quite a bit of in the future if you want your relationship to work.

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fredag 9 maj 2014

Dating As A Single Mom

As more and more single mothers start re-entering the dating arena, there are some tricky situations to maneuver through. These can be mothers that are either divorced or those that are single because they chose to be. For these women, dating can involve some pretty large hoops to jump through unless you’ve got live in help or a relative that just loves to babysit your kids for you. Actually, babysitting is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to coordinating all of the things that need to be taken care of before you can enjoy a night out on the town with a date. 

However, in spite of all the preparation for a date, single women continue to have a very successful social life that also includes dating. The first thing to remember is that any man who may be around your children at any point in time is someone that you need to be very sure about. You need to be certain that he’s safe and that he doesn’t have any sort of criminal history. It’s also a good idea to find out how he feels about kids before you start dating him. All of these things are very important and should be thoroughly checked into before ever going out on that first date. The last thing you want is to bring someone into your life and that of your children who has a less than stellar background. 



A problem that many single moms face when dating is dealing with a child that doesn’t want to share their mom with someone new. Now, obviously, you don’t want to upset your child that may already be dealing with the fallout from a divorce or death of a father. However, you do need to set some clear boundaries. It’s important for your child to understand that you’re more than just a mom and that you deserve to have some privacy of your own to get out and have some adult fun. You need to explain that you’ll always be there for them, but that there’s also a part of your life that belongs only to you. If all else fails and these problems escalate, you probably want to consider having your child speak with a counselor.

Last, but not least, if it begins to look as if a certain relationship may be heading down a path to something more permanent, start incorporating your child into your dating life. Once you feel that someone may become a serious part of your life, he needs to spend some time with your child so that they can become better acquainted. This needs to be done well ahead of time before making any such serious decisions as moving in together or getting married. If your child and your man get along well, the transition will be so much easier because they will have had time to get to know one another and won’t be strangers.  
As you can see, it’s much simpler to adjust to dating life as a single mom than you may have ever thought it would be. 

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torsdag 8 maj 2014

Dutch Dating

For centuries, whenever a date occurred, there were some very specific and accepted rules in place. The first one is that the guys always did the asking. Only a few times was it acceptable for girls to do the asking. These were events like Sadie Hawkins Day and simply social events that were set up by high schools, churches and various community organizations where the girls asked the guys they wanted to attend these events with them. The next rule is that the guys always paid for the date. Again, the only exception to this is when the girls were also the ones doing the asking. The guys provided the transportation and picked up the girls at their homes. Girls could do this when they were involved in one of those switching events. 

That may have made sense years ago when people had decent jobs, made adequate money at them, and the prices for entertainment wasn’t so high. These days, unless you happen to work as a doctor, lawyer, or CEO of a large company, you probably have to save up your money in order to afford asking a woman out on a date and paying for it. Due to the economy, it’s become the accepted practice of “Dutch Dating.” This means, basically, that when on an expensive date, the man pays for his half and the woman pays for hers. 




  

While this can get a bit sticky at times, there are actually new rules that govern Dutch Dating. When a couple is dating where each one makes pretty much the same amount of money, it’s acceptable for each partner to pay their own way. In this away, the couples get to do much more exciting things on dates than just having burgers at a fast food restaurant and watching a rented DVD at home. Now, there’s certainly nothing wrong with doing those things sometimes on dates, but who wants to do them all the time? 

If you want to do something special for someone that you’re dating, then you can save up some money for an event such as a birthday or anniversary. When you do the asking for something like this, you should expect to pay for all of it. This can be a nice thing to do for someone you care about. 


There’s also a rule about the person that makes the most money paying for the date, or at least paying for a larger portion of it. Again, this rule changes around depending on who did the asking and who planned the type of date it would be. There’s nothing wrong with women paying for the entire date sometimes, either. In fact, many couples switch back and forth as to who will foot the bill for dates. For instance, the guy pays for one and the woman pays for the next one and so on. This can work out pretty well. 

One rule that should always be in place is the first date rule. When a guy asks a woman out for the first time, he should be prepared to pay for the entire date. If the couple continues dating, they can make their own rules as they go along. 


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onsdag 7 maj 2014

Should you ever have a one night stand with your ex?

To most people a one night stand is like a trophy. Being able to sleep with someone for just one night and then separate without any attachment whatsoever is a tricky task. 

You get to indulge in the finer things in life without having to deal with the complicated process of forming a relationship. But where do you draw the line when it comes to one night stands?

Of all the people you could have a one night stand with, an ex is one of the most complicated. In the heat of the moment you may find yourself about to hook up with someone you thought you were never going to be with again. 

If all goes well, it can be quite the treat. There is always the possibility however, that it will not. To avoid unnecessary drama in your life, there are a few things you should consider before hooking up with an ex, even for "old times' sake".

Is Anything Clouding Your Judgement?

This is the first thing you should always ask yourself if you are considering this situation. Hooking up with your ex can lead to a landslide of regret the following morning if you realize it's not something you really wanted to do. 

If you are under the influence of any drugs or alcohol your decision making skills take a back seat and impulse and desire take over the wheel. Many impaired people let their clouded judgement take control and forget to think over consequences.



If you know there is a possibility of hooking up with your ex, make sure you have considered it with a completely sober mindset first.

Consider Why You Broke Up To Begin With

It is hard to define whether or not you should have a one night stand with your ex since it is so circumstantial. Certain people have no problem doing it and with others it leads to turmoil.
 Analyze the way your relationship was and think about why it ended. Which one of you wanted to end it? Did you split up on good terms?

If you were the one that wanted to break it off, you should find out whether or not your ex still has feelings for you. They could be expecting something much different to come from the one night stand. 

You don't want to hook up with them if it means you will end up breaking their heart all over again. To solve this issue, make it clear that it is only a one night deal. If you are both mature about it with control of your feelings, it could be fine.

Think About What You Are Looking For

The last thing to do before you hook up with an ex is to find out why you are doing it. Analyze the motives behind your actions before making the big decision.

Do you want to do it purely for the sex? If this is the case than why did you choose your ex? There are plenty of other new experiences laying ahead of you that you could be exploring. 

If you are doing it purely for the comfort of being with someone you know, make sure you keep it strictly physical with minimal emotions.

But perhaps you are doing it for another reason. Is the one night stand motivated by a desire to be with them? If so, then why pick a one night stand? If the desire is strong enough, talk to your ex about your feelings and find out where they stand to see if your feelings match up. 

Just be aware, if they are looking for sex and you are looking for a relationship, you could end up getting hurt. With all this in mind, deciding whether or not to hook up with your ex will be a lot easier. Before you make a final decision, prepare yourself for the fact that one night stands can toy with emotions before making your decision. Analyze the motives of you and your partner and just to be safe, make a set of rules that define the night as a one time thing. 

tisdag 6 maj 2014

Why women freak out around a man & unknowingly do things which push him away...

Do you know what happens when a woman goes through a difficult
situation with a man?
She keeps freaking out...I call it the freak out syndrome. This is
how the cycle runs...

A woman finds herself in a difficult situation with a man...
She doesn't understand why he's doing what he's doing...
She then tries to do what she assumes is the right thing but it
doesn't work...
She then feels stuck & eventually freaks out.
It's no surprise why so many women are leading a life of silent
desperation.

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The point I am trying to make here is that when women drive
themselves completely nuts by freaking out over and over again, it
messes them up completely over time.
But it doesn't stop here...

In fact! Under such a situation a woman unknowingly does things
which push a man further away...
Here are the two most common routes women take...
1- They first try to convince a man.
2- And when the first option doesn't work, they try to argue
their way into his head.

I don't know why but women have this inner belief that if they
can just explain their situation to a man he will somehow get it...
Guess what? It doesn't really work that way. You can never make
him understand your situation when you try hard to drill your point
into his head. In fact! The harder you try, the further he will
pull himself.


And when convincing him doesn't work, they take the second
route, which is to argue or fight and finally when things get
really bad, they use blame and guilt to get their point across.
Let me explain this with a good example...

Let's say your man is starting to get distant & you fear
that maybe he is planning to leave you. You first try to understand
why he is getting distant, but things aren't making any sense,
as a result you freak out.
Next, you try to talk to him about it, you say things like -
Honey! I don't know why you are avoiding me like this, what
have I done? Are you planning to leave me? Have you found someone
else? I need answers.

And you still don't get the answers you need and as a result
your anxiety is starting to turn into anger. You feel that you
deserve answers from him...And in the process you say things like...
I am sick & tired of not getting answers from you. You
aren't pulling your share of weight in the relationship, I feel
like I am doing all the work. You only care about yourself.
This is a major mistake which can literally shake the foundation of
a relationship. When you use this approach a man only feels
attacked and his first reaction is to get even more distant to
avoid confrontation.

It's important to understand that you can't hold a gun to
his head & make him get it. You are following an utterly
hopeless strategy if you think you can.
There is a better way - There are things you can do & say which
will naturally make a man want to open up to you, give you all the
love you need and be devoted to you for the rest of his life. Follow
this link right now to discover it...
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