tisdag 29 april 2014

Dealing With A Partners Controlling Mother

In a perfect world, everyone would have mothers that knew when to let go of their babies. However, it’s not a perfect world and there are many more of these controlling mothers around than you would have ever thought possible. That’s why the chances are really good that when you hook up with someone romantically, you’re going to also be taking on his very controlling mother.

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Now, it’s not all bad. In fact, some mothers aren’t really controlling so much as they really do just want their sons to be happy. With those mothers, you’ve got a chance because, while they might be a bit distant initially, once they see that you adore their “little boy,” they’ll warm right up to you because the two of you have a common goal. All you have to do is show this mother that you do, indeed, love her son and she’ll become your best friend.

Next up are the controlling mothers that feel no woman is good enough for their sons. It wouldn’t matter if you came from royalty and are next in line for the throne. Unless these women have personally handpicked the women for their sons to be with, it’s pretty much a lost cause. Now, if you’re lucky, your guy will understand that his mother is unreasonable and he’ll be the buffer between the two of you. If you’re lucky, he may even agree to move to another state so that you don’t have to be around her and her dislike of you all the time.


The worst of these controlling mothers are something like you probably have never encountered at any point in your life. These women will do anything to keep their sons with them because their belief is that no one on this planet can look after their sons as well as they can. Nothing you do is ever going to be good enough or right, for that matter. Worst of all, she will expect to be included in all parts of your life. If your man can’t say no to her, she’ll be going with you on all trips you take. Every time you and your man have Date Night, she’ll tag along. You’ll probably find her at YOUR house more than at her own. Hopefully, your partner isn’t “mommy whipped” so that he can set boundaries for her and make her keep to them.

The signs are usually there soon enough so that you’re don’t get involved with a guy that’s overly attached to his mother. When you spot them, just cut your losses and run. On the other hand, if you had no warning that you’re inheriting one of these horrible women by getting involved with what you thought was a great guy; you may experience some pain before extricating yourself from the situation. If she’s being unreasonable and trying to act like his wife, attempt to have a talk with him about it. Tell him how that you feel as if you’re married or involved with BOTH of them and that you’re not happy with the arrangement.

She may end up not being an entity you can battle. If that turns out to be true, then the only solution may be to move across the country from her. However, if your man seems unwilling to cut those apron strings, you may just have to walk.

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onsdag 23 april 2014

Dating A Jokester

One of the qualities that many women look for in a potential romantic partner is the ability to laugh. It’s a great thing when someone can laugh at themselves and make some truly funny jokes to ensure that anyone around them will also be laughing. However, there can be a problem if a guy is so into being funny that it’s like he never experiences a serious moment. He can be hot, sexy and everything else that you would ever want in a guy, but if all he does is crack jokes, how can you be certain of how he really feels about you?
First of all, decide if he really does have all of the qualities that you require in the ideal man for you. If he’s easy on the eyes, that’s certainly a factor that counts near the top of the list. How does he treat you? Does he take you to nice places on dates? Does he remember important days such as your birthday? Is he someone you can depend upon if you need comfort? All of those things also matter.

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Now, let’s look at that joking thing. Does he make jokes at inappropriate times? Can you have sex without him cracking jokes the whole time? That can actually be very annoying, not to mention a real mood killer. What about when he starts laughing at other times that are meant to be romantic? That’s probably going to get on your nerves pretty quickly. You can’t forget those physical types of jokes, either. These fall into the area of sneaking up on you when you’re in the shower and playing Norman Bates while you scream and flail around. Maybe he tends to poke you in the backside every time you bend over for some reason. That’s not any fun when you get to the point that you’re afraid to shower or bend over to pick something up.



If you’re still convinced that he’s the one for you in spite of these ongoing comedy routines, it’s time to sit him down and have a very open and honest conversation about how all of his jokes are affecting your relationship.  Tell him that, while you do appreciate his sense of humor, you also need to have those times when things are NOT funny, such as romance and sex. He needs to understand how it makes you feel when you’re engaging in a very intensely personal moment and he feels the need to crack a joke.

It’s very possible that you can make him see your point of view and find a way to be more humor appropriate. If he still seems to have trouble with his timing, it may be that you need to look into why he feels the need to be so funny all the time. There could be some insecurity that he’s trying to hide behind the laughter and the jokes. Lots of talking may be needed to get to the bottom of it and he may even get some benefit from speaking to a professional.
All isn’t lost just because he likes to make jokes all the time. A little patience may be all it takes.



lördag 19 april 2014

Being There Helping Your Partner Come Out To Their Parents

A great many gay people these days are becoming more and more comfortable with being public about their sexual orientation, but there are still a multitude of families that harbor traditional values. If you find yourself in a relationship with a gay man or woman that is still in the closet, there are a few things you can do to ease the situation and handle it with maturity.

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The most important thing for you to do is not push your lover too hard to out themselves. Business in the bedroom really is personal. Much how a young person wouldn’t want to, or need to, tell their parents that they lost their virginity, being homosexual really isn’t that different. It’s personal. If you really find it important for them to come out to their parents, then tell them why. Tell them how you want to be with them openly, without having to hide or feel like an embarrassment. Let them know that it makes you feel small and unwanted to sneak around or pretend to be a “friend.”  The first step is talking about it and how you feel.
If they decide to come out, the next step is keeping drama to a minimum. You may find yourself offended, or even intimidated by the views of the family, but if your partner wants you to be there, stay strong and confident.



You want to be friendly regardless of any harsh or hurt words that may be thrown your way. Some families come to terms with it easier, as it is becoming more modern and accepted, but you need to be aware that some families can over react a good bit. It may be hard to remain cool and collected under certain pressure or criticisms, but the best thing you can do is try.
If your partner decides to do it alone, and you are concerned about how the family will react, stay close to them. Keep your phone on you in case they need you, and stay within a close distance of their home. Their family may not react too poorly, but it never hurts to be cautious. Some families are just better off handling it alone.

There’s really not a wrong way for your partner to go about it, because once it’s said, that’s it. As soon as the words are out there, there’s no taking them back. So be sure your partner knows that there won’t be any going back when it’s all said and done.
One of the hardest things about being in a relationship with someone who is still in the closet is if they decide to stay there. If you talk to your partner about your concerns and you tell them how it makes you feel, but they still decide to stay hidden, then you’re going to have to make a choice. Would you be able to hide with them, or would you need to live out loud? That’s the decision you’ll have to make.

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torsdag 17 april 2014

Internet Dating Safety

There’s been a lot written and spoken on the subject of dating safety since the introduction of the Internet and all of the dating sites you can find now. Even though so much has been written, it doesn’t mean that it will ever be too much. There’s simply no way to saturate the world with enough information on dating safety. If even one person is saved from harm by the all of available information on how to stay safe when dating someone from the Internet, it’s all been worth it.

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To begin with, the Internet is one of the most anonymous entities you’ll find anywhere. People online can be anyone and anything they wish, whether it’s actually the truth or not. They can fool others into believing that they’re respectable and even wealthy when they’re actually borderline criminals with no job. That’s not the worst of it, though. The Internet has made it much easier for predators to find their victims, and that’s why it’s vital to keep a safety plan in place.

NEVER agree to go out with someone that you’ve only JUST started talking to online. This is true whether it’s through a dating site or just a chat room. There are steps you need to take to ensure your safety. The first one of these is to spend some time getting to know this person you’re drawn to. Try to get him to talk to you on a webcam because that will show you a lot about him. It’s also a good idea to try to get as much information as you can about him without having to give him too much of yours. You can take that information and investigate him a bit.





Speaking of giving out information, don’t tell him truly personal things such as your phone number and address. You want to keep him from finding you until you’re sure that you trust him and you’re ready to meet. There’s no way to keep yourself fully safe if you’re giving him your full name, address and phone number right off the bat.

Once you’ve decided that he’s probably ok, set up your first meeting with him in a very public place and during the daylight hours. It’s also a great idea to take a friend along with you so that you’ve got an escape route if you need it. In addition, the guy you’re meeting sees that someone else knows who you’re with if you happen to disappear or turn up harmed. Also, go in your own car so that you’re not stuck depending on him for a ride home. If everything is going well, then you can send your friend on her way.

These are all just common sense rules that everyone needs to follow when engaging in online dating. It doesn’t matter how much you may be tempted to forego the rules, please don’t do it. Consider that dangerous people don’t always appear that way. There are many wolves wearing sheep’s clothing and you don’t want to be trapped by one of them.

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måndag 14 april 2014

Signs That Hes Not Worth A Second Date

When you go on a date with a new guy, you’re always taking a bit of a risk that he’s not a serial killer or rapist at the worst, or just dull and boring at the least. Dates can go wrong for a lot of different reasons. Maybe he picks his nose or has a braying laugh. There can be other reasons such as there’s no chemistry between you. 



Sometimes, though, it’s not quite so easy to tell if you’ve snagged a loser or not. It may be that he’s perfectly nice and, yes, there’s a bit of chemistry. You just don’t quite know whether or not it’s something you want to pursue. In these situations, there are some ways to tell if he’s worth a second date or not. Look for the following signs that he’s someone you just pass by:

He’s a bad tipper: This is often the sign of a selfish person. He doesn’t need to tip outrageously, but if it’s less than 15 percent, he’s probably cheap in other ways, too.
His parents are “mommy” and “daddy” to him: This might just be a Southern thing, but an adult man calling his parents by these little boy names is just weird.

He’s disrespectful regarding his exes: All people have an ex somewhere in their past that hurt them. There’s also baggage left from the old relationships. The thing is that smart guys learn from these relationships and then they move on. A guy that doesn’t learn will be nasty about his exes and possibly use up valuable conversation time with YOU dissing THEM.

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He’s rude to servers: A man that’s rude to waiters or retail staff will be rude to you, too, sooner or later.
He’ not a reader: If he’s someone that never reads anything other than the sports section of the newspaper or comic books, he’s probably not intellectually well read. This may or may not be ok with you.
He’s a smoker: This tells you that he doesn’t care a lot about his health. On top of that, his breath probably smells like an ashtray.

He never works out: This might not be that big of a deal to all women but if you’re a woman that takes care of herself, you’ll want to date someone that also leads a healthy lifestyle.
He makes rude remarks about other women: Men that laugh about other women’s less than flattering features can’t possibly respect women on a whole. So if you’re out with someone that jokes about someone’s “fat ass” or “sagging tits,” you probably don’t want to see him again.

He doesn’t care about the news: Men that don’t care about the news or what’s happening in the world aren’t a very aware people.
He’s not well-traveled and doesn’t want to be: This man is probably never going anywhere in life because he doesn’t have any desire to ever leave Tiny Town, Anywhere USA. Unless you’re a real homebody, too, this is a man that will bore you to death.

These are just a few of the red flags that you can keep an eye out for when you start dating a new guy. If you spot one or all of these, you might want to keep looking.

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tisdag 8 april 2014

Dating Patterns To Avoid

Many times women tend to fall into certain patterns when it comes to dating. 


Now, they don’t have to be negative ones, but they typically are. Once you know what to watch for, though, you’ll find that those patterns will dissipate in no time.

One of those patterns is to stop mistaking comfort for love or attraction. This happens when you meet someone that you feel comfortable with instantly. You already know what to say and not to say around them, what makes them laugh, and other things. What you’re missing here is that he’s a lot like your ex, and most of the exes before him. Stop letting history repeat itself.

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Another pretty important thing you want to watch is keeping in touch with your ex. 


Yes, it may seem harmless and you hate to simply cut him off that way. You’ve probably got a thousand excuses as to why you keep texting or calling him. Something you need to remember is that you’ll never move on while your ex is still in the picture.

There’s a lot to be said for companionship, but how many times do you let companionship take hold and settle in while taking the place of excitement. Relationships should have at least some excitement in them so that you’ve got something to look forward to. If there’s too much comfort in your relationship, it won’t be long until it becomes really boring and not worth the effort.



Something else to remember is that you need to pace yourself when you’ve just ended a relationship with someone. 


This is particularly true if you were in a long term relationship.  Give yourself some time to heal before you dive right into dating someone new. Rebound relationships rarely work out.
Some women decide that they’re just dating the wrong types of guys. So instead of trying to figure out what went wrong in the last relationship, they start dating guys opposite from the type they usually date. This is a recipe for disaster.

Something else you should never do is pretend to be something that you’re not. Many women decide that they simply don’t want to feel anything anymore so they try to pretend to be players. Eventually, you’re going to really hurt someone and then you’ll feel awful.

Last, but not least, don’t lie to yourself about what’s really going on in your relationship. 


If he’s seeing other people, but you’re not allowed to, that’s not a relationship. He’s calling all the shots and you’re pretending that it’s all good. The problem is that it’s not all good and you need to stop lying to yourself. He doesn’t love you and you’re not in a true relationship if that’s going on.

Now, if you find yourself repeating any of these patterns over and over again, it’s time to take stock of what you’re really doing when it comes to relationships. Be ready to change what needs to be changed and stand up for yourself. You deserve a true relationship, but you’re not going to do it by repeating destructive patterns.

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