This series of articles is about the spark of love. What makes a couple compatible? And is it the things we always imagined?
There are many myths about what matters and what doesn't. There are also things that you might have overlooked as the first blush of attraction crept your way.
There was something that sparked your interest and got you to your first date. Something on that date brought you back for a second.
Now you are in a relationship – you are either serious with a boyfriend or girlfriend or you are married. Now, it is time to analyze your compatibility. But this is no easy checklist. It's a combination of shared values, experiences, and interests.
But relationships are too important to not analyze. That is why we're going to look at 16 things that matter in a relationship and 7 things that don't.
Love is more than a mutual sexual attraction, it is a strong emotional bond. Honesty is the glue in that bond.
To become emotionally intimate, you have to share secrets and experiences with your partner that are exclusive to you. This intense, intimate, private exchange requires honesty on the part of both parties. This means that you have to give accurate information about the present as well as the past.
You should know that being honest doesn't mean being rude. If she asks you “does this dress make me look fat?” The answer is always "NO!" You don't have to share things just to hurt your partner. Refrain from spilling your guts in a way that damages the relationship.
Remember, your partner will instinctively trust you because they have put their romantic life in your hands. But, if you violate that trust by lying, he or she may have trouble ever trusting you again.
Speaking of trust, there is no way you can know what the other person is doing 24/7. That is why you need to trust that they are not doing anything hurtful to you.
That means that you have to trust that they are not being inappropriate with another person, spending community money unwisely, or abusing alcohol, drugs, etc.
Like honesty, once trust is broken, it is hard to get back. Often, the damage done by someone who is untrustworthy can lead to a break up. If the trust violation has been serious, consider couple's counseling if you don't want a split.
If your partner is not for you than who is? You need your significant other to be in your corner 100 percent of the time. That doesn't mean that he or she won't ever criticize you. But it does mean that any critique will be constructive and in your best interest.
Loyalty also means being there for the other person in thick and thin. You should be able to count on your partner when the chips are down.
Finally, loyalty means that your partner is not cheating on you emotionally or sexually with another person.
Tomorrow's article will continue with this series of articles on the sparks of love.
Ps. Meanwhile you can continue watching this Free Video explaining the nuts and bolts in relationships!