You don't love her, she doesn't love you. This is perhaps the easiest relationship to break off. Perhaps you haven't been together long or alternatively, you've drifted so far apart that you don't even remember what brought you together in the first place. In any case, while the
“encounter” of breaking up may be difficult, you'll both heal quickly.
You don't love her, she loves you. When you have fallen out of love with your girlfriend, but she passionately loves you, breaking up is hard. This really is a case of "it's not you, it's me."
But, that message is hard to convey in anything less than a trite way. You have to break up so that both of you can move on. Remember, it is better to set her free to find someone who can love her like she deserves.
You love her, she doesn't love you. This is the so-called "defensive break up." She may be sticking around for any number of reasons, but she doesn't love you any more. You owe it to yourself to find someone who can care about you like you deserve.
You love her, she loves you, it wasn't meant to be. This is the hardest kind of break up. You both love each other, but something – religion, family, timing, you name it – is standing in your
way. You have to be honest. Continuing the relationship is futile. You are both better off ending the relationship now rather than getting deeper when the relationship can never end in
Ways to Prepare Her for the Break Up
You don't have to rush into a break up just because you have decided to call it off. Giving her some time to get used to the idea can be the nicest thing you do for her.
For instance, you can stop having as much time for her. This will push her into finding ways to spend her time without you. She will also start to look at other guys as they are filling the attention void you leave open.
You can also stop catering to her needs. If you dress a certain way to please her or modify your driving style when she is with you, you should start doing what you please. This will make you less attractive to her.
There are some juvenile tricks that can be employed as well:
* Let yourself go – she'll wonder why she ever wanted you!
* Be a bad date – she'll start looking at other guys with envy.
* Compare her to her mother – that is sure to make her mad at you and prepare her for what is coming.
You should also try to prepare her by bringing up the subject of breaking up. You can pull a trick out of the girlfriend bag and ask to have a “relationship talk,” (“where do you think this relationship is going…”) Ask her where she thinks the relationship is going and if she sees it as a good thing.
These things will help her mentally prepare for the break up. Who knows, maybe she'll even go as far as initiating the break up herself; saving you the trouble.
Ps. If you are sure dont wait with breaking up but do it nicely and always leave the door open for something better can happen, maybe a reunion or a new love. Discover the magic second chance letter.