The best part about being a human, is the ability to actually deeply care about and love someone. To be in love is probably one of the greatest emotions we can experience. When you're in a relationship and everything is going well, it's sometimes easy to take the relationship for granted.
Unfortunately, relationships, even the ones you thought were going smoothly, can come to an abrupt end. While truly caring about someone and loving them is great and a source of pleasure, when the relationship is over it can be a huge source of pain, sorrow, and a broken heart. If the break up is recent, you may not believe it, but there are things you can do to begin mending a broken heart.
Unfortunately, there is no magic pill, potion, lotion, or method for instantly mending a broken heart. It is imperative that you understand this. After a break up, there will be times when your emotions are going to be up, down, sideways, diagonal, and every other way, but right.
In fact, you'll probably experience combination's of emotions you never thought possible. One example is anger and sadness mixed together. You'll find that sometimes your emotions can change at the drop of a hat. You'll be feeling fine, laughing one minute, the next you'll be really sad, even crying. The most important thing you have to realize is that it all seems bleak and dark now. However, as time presses on, things will get better.
It is critical that you try to reign in your emotions. Does this mean you should bottle up your emotions? No, absolutely not. However, it does mean that you shouldn't let your sadness, anger, depression, or any other emotion control you for long periods of time. If you're feeling sad, allow yourself to have a “pity party” for a maximum of 15 minutes. Then, say to yourself “Okay, that's enough. It's time to stop.
Mending a broken heart is also going to require you to try and stay busy. If you give your mind a lot of idle time to think, it will probably want to think about your break up. This isn't good. Try to keep your mind and body active. You probably won't feel like doing this very much, but its important. Go somewhere, do something, try to drag friends along. Tell them to not let you talk about the break up. Try not to sit around the house and do nothing. That's the worst thing you can do.
Falling in love is usually the easy part. Mending a broken heart is not. That's just one of the cruel realities of life. Everything has an equal and an opposite. The wonderful, uplifting, feelings you get from being in love, are the exact opposite to the miserable, depression and sadness, that go along with a break up. Time, an active lifestyle, happy thoughts, and good friends will get you through this tough time.
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