onsdag 13 december 2017

Six Secrets for a Long Healthy Relationship

We live in a time when people change relationships more often than they change hairstyles. Some people would call them disposable. Easy come. Easy go. But, what happens, when you think you've found the one. You know, the one they wrote epic poems about long ago. The one that makes every other relationship pale by comparison -- at least as far as your relationship experiences are concerned. How do you hold on to this special relationship while so many other couples are unable to make it work?

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The key word here is work. You have to work at making relationships last. Fortunately for you, these six secrets for relationship success don't always feel like the hard work they are.

1) Communicate. You have to communicate effectively with each other. That doesn’t simply mean you have to talk to each other. You have to also understand each other and be on the same page about many things in your relationships and in the lives you build together.

2) Connect. The physical connection between couples is vital to relationship longevity. It goes beyond what takes place in the bedroom however. You really do need the connection of human touch to help solidify your bond. Cuddle together on the couch, hold hands in the theater, and hug each other as often as possible. The more you touch, in a genuine and affectionate manner, generally speaking, the happier you are together.

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Six Secrets for a Long Healthy Relationship

3) Find common ground. Every relationship needs a little common ground. These are the areas where the two of you have shared convictions. Sometimes these convictions are based on morals or religion. Other times they're related to causes or politics. Whatever your shared convictions may be, it's a wise plan to cultivate that common ground and grow together.

4) Shared interests. This is a little different than common ground. Your interests don't have to be on the same scale. However, if you both love the ocean you might find that buying a sailboat, for instance, is a great way to feed the love of sailing the open seas for one while feeding the love of water and sunshine for the other. You both love the ocean and sailing gives you an opportunity to enjoy the thing you both love together.

5) Companionship. You must spend time together if your relationship is going to work. Otherwise there really isn't a relationship to cultivate. Time is critical. Finding positive ways to spend your time together, even in troubling times, is a great way to build a stronger relationship together -- especially if you're both committed to the cause of making your relationship last.

6) Time apart. While it's important to spend time as a couple in order to cultivate and grow the relationship, it's also important to enjoy a little time outside of your partner's company. You both need friends on the side for blowing off steam, wise counsel, and a little break from the intensity of the relationship.

These six secrets may not look like all that much on a piece of paper, but over the years, they will all make a huge difference in the strength and resilience of your relationship together. Keep them in mind at all times for best results.

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måndag 11 december 2017

Undeniable Signs He's In Love With You

It's not always easy to tell if a man is actually in love with you or just really likes you. But there are a few surefire ways to tell so you can stop wondering.

You're His Top Priority

He thinks about you often and keeps in contact frequently throughout the day. He includes you in his plans and appreciates it when you do the same for him. In conversation, he uses words like "us", "we", and "ours". This indicates he subconsciously wants you to be a part of his future.

He Respects You and Treats You Well

When a man loves a woman he is attentive to her needs, feelings, and desires. In fact, if he's really in love with you, chances are he will put your needs first over his own.

Often he will go out of his way to make your life better in some way and also show respect and courtesy to your friends and family as well.

A Man in Love Will Tell His Friends All About You

If a man shows you affection, especially in public, it clearly indicates he's proud of you and wants everyone to see that you're his main squeeze.

He wants all his friends and family to know about you and invites you to special family functions and even company gatherings.

Most of His Free Time is Spent With You

You're the one he wants to see in his free time. He chooses to go everywhere with you and spend major holidays together such as Christmas, New Year's Eve, Thanksgiving, and of course, Valentine's Day.

If a Man Loves You, He Cares About Your Life

A man who truly loves you is genuinely happy when things go well for you. In challenging times, he's the first one to comfort you and stay by your side. He's the epitome of a stand-up guy who's willing to go the extra mile on your behalf.

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Undeniable Signs He's In Love With You 

A love-smitten man will likely think of fun ways to surprise you in order to keep you happy. When faced with adversity or danger, he rushes to your side to show his clear intention of protecting you and everything about you.

Men in Love Don't Cheat

If a man loves you, there is no way he is going to cheat on you with another woman. No excuses. Yes, men are hard-wired to spread their seed and procreate in the animal kingdom. But an honorable man who's deeply in love with a woman wouldn't think of it.

He only desires the object of his affection - you. Also, he treats your relationship with the utmost integrity and honor. He is trustworthy, noble, and loyal when it comes to your connection with him. He does what he says he's going to do out of respect for you.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Never believe a man when he says "I love you" if his actions and behaviors aren't aligned with his words. Does he say "I love you" and then turn around and text another woman secretly behind your back?

If so, he doesn't truly love or respect you. Your gut instinct will let you know whether he's simply feeding you a line for some ulterior motive or if he truly means it. Also, read his body language when he says it.

Trust your intuition - it's right 100% of the time.

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fredag 15 september 2017

How to Communicate with Your Mate About the Tough Stuff: Jealousy

By Susie and Otto Collins 

Joe's wife, Kristi, has a jealousy problem and he's had enough. It seems that every single day there is new drama in their marriage...generated by her. 

It's often the same turn of events. Joe comes home a little late because he's been tied up at work or maybe he needs a little time to unwind after a long day, so he stops for a drink with a co-worker. 

Then, when Joe does arrive home, it seems like he's always greeted with accusations and interrogations. Joe wants to know how to talk with Kristi about her jealousy before it's too late for their marriage.

When it comes to jealousy, talking with your partner in a way that doesn't tear you further apart can be really tricky. 

It may be obvious to you that your mate has a problem. The number of times that he or she has flown off the handle and accused you of flirting, looking at others or even having an affair may be too many to count. 

On the other hand, if you are the one who tends to get jealous, it may be obvious to you that your partner is the one with the problem.

Perhaps, from your point of view, he or she truly is a flirt and sometimes even talks, looks at or touches others in ways that you find inappropriate. 

What's your perspective? 
When it comes to jealousy, your perspective can truly alter what you see. It can mean the difference between words or actions being innocent and "no big deal" OR them being suspicious and betraying.

This is really important to remember as you set about to communicate about jealousy in a way that helps you and your partner move closer together. 

Try to move beyond the question of who's right and who's wrong. 

You are certainly experiencing a situation in a particular way and your mate is probably experiencing the same situation differently. 

In order for the two of you to be able to talk about what you each want and to create agreements you both can stick with, it's vital that you remind yourself that your perspective is not the only
perspective of what's going on. 

Does this mean that you have to just sit there silently while, for example, your boyfriend so clearly checks out an attractive woman who walks by? 

Of course not. 

What it means is that instead of yelling around about it or storming off, you make a clear and, as calm as possible, choice about what you'll do next. 

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Speak honestly and about your feelings. The next time that Joe comes home late to an irate wife, he does something out of the ordinary. 

He hears her litany of questions... "Where were you? How do I know you were really at work? When will you learn to treat me with respect and call me when you'll be late?"

Then, Joe tells Kristi that he's going to take a few moments by himself and then he'd like to talk with her about this whole situation. 

She is surprised, because this is not Joe's usual reaction, which is to yell back at her that she needs to just trust him and stay out of his business. 

During this time alone, Joe takes some deep breaths and calms down. When he steps back from his own perspective for a moment, he can understand why Kristi would be upset and even feel jealous and worried. 

Joe returns to Kristi and apologizes for being late and for his habit of not calling to let her know his plans. He then opens up and shares with her how sad he feels about the tension and conflict between them lately. 

He tells her that knows that he's not easy to live with and that he feels trapped and boxed in when Kristi lays in on him with accusations and interrogations. 

Together, Joe and Kristi begin to sort through how they each feel. A greater understanding of where they are both coming from results. 

There is no magic cure for jealousy. 

But, when you can begin to own and communicate honestly about your emotions and you take responsibility for your share in the habits that are driving you two apart, magical things can happen. 

Choose words that reflect your experience of the situation. Do not label your partner's experience or guess what he or she wants or is feeling. 

You can always ask questions to get more information about what's happening for him or her. 

For example, Joe says to Kristi, "I get really angry when you automatically assume that I'm sleeping around with another woman because I get home late. But, I wonder if you are afraid that that's exactly what I'm doing when I don't call. Is that true for you?"

When you ask a question, be sure you really listen to your mate's response. Even if you don't agree with his or her perspective, you might be able to better understand what's going on for him or her when you do. 

From this place of listening and sharing honestly, you and your partner can create agreements that will help you to overcome jealousy, bolster trust and begin to move closer together. 
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torsdag 20 april 2017

Keeping Partners Happy

Relationship happiness challenges every couple and grows only more so the longer couples remain together. It goes beyond flowers at Valentine's Day and a sweet card on the anniversary. Knowing one's partner is critical followed closely by avoiding the temptation of self interest. Let's see some key missteps and wins in keeping partners happy.

Self Happiness Temptation

The person's tastes and preferences one knows the best is their own. When making decisions in a relationship, they can have a hard time putting aside what they prefer in favor of their partner. What causes these choices to be wrong?

* They ask for a change the partner is not willing to make -- either because they do not want or are not ready to make.
* They seek to establish a level of commitment for one's own security in the relationship.
* They cast the individual in a light not fitting who they really are causing them to feel a deep discomfort.
* They call into question the reason for the relationship if they do not meet unspoken expectations.

Early on, these sorts of things can be talked out because couples are getting to know each other. The amount of information they do not have far outweighs what they possess. Trouble occurs when it continues to happen because then a partner begins feeling they are not being heard.

What Makes Them Happy

A few simple rules exist to discover what makes another person feel happy in a relationship. If they are simple, people think everyone gains access and follows through in every instance. Because of such an unfortunate misconception coupled with a person's natural desire to follow their own self interest, partners need to interrogate and investigate what they are doing.

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Keeping Partners Happy

Ask: Often simply asking a partner will give the clearest indication the aspects of relationships bringing them the most joy. Bear in mind, this might change because people often blind themselves to what they really want. People also need to feel safe enough to be able to give voice to their desires in a relationship.

Watch: People will do things pointing to just what makes them happy. Do they say they need time alone and then linger in the same room with questions? They could be asking for the contact or time. Maybe they produce something creative and need the nurturing safety of the relationship.

Hear: As with everything, we all long to be heard, sometimes even the words. A partner who lived in a tumultuous house growing up may struggle with expressing how deeply they care. By being exposed to their history, one can pick out bits of their story coming through in what they do and positively impact them when they are opening up.

Happiness Connection

There are two people in the relationship, so happiness is not based on a single side. Pursing only one person's bliss will create a lack of balance. Why would this be bad? It provides a place of hiding. By being shielded, couples may become close without any opportunity for deeper connection. This means communicating, exploring activities together and fostering inclusion. This should be reciprocated because happiness should be both people's goal.

Think of a relationship as a tree. Rarely, does anyone ask if a tree is happy. Fortunately, everyone knows when it is happy because it is healthy, strong and growing. A relationship where both partners flourish, feel heard and laugh together stretches its root deep into the ground and hold fast for years to come.

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söndag 19 februari 2017

The Magic of Making Up

The Secret you need to know to get your lover back! From the man that has helped over 50 000 people in 77 countries to get back together again!

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måndag 2 januari 2017

Expressing Love Without Neediness

The emotion of love brings with it countless twists and turns. Those under its sway report mood swings and uncontrollable behaviors. During those times, normal expressions of care create an unstable environment. Though sounding counter intuitive, the madness of love makes people say and do things they might not. Misunderstandings occur most frequently when rocky times buffet the relationship. After a break up, a partner may receive a rebuff from a previously adoring loved one. How can love be offered without leading to greater distance? Let's see how it is possible.

First, a clear definition of neediness is necessary. The word itself denotes a condition of want, need, poverty or indigence. In the state of lack, people behave differently than they might when all their needs are fulfilled. Think of someone under the stresses of extreme hunger. They consume things regardless of how healthy they might be because of their blind need for calories. This can happen emotionally as well.

Manifestations of Neediness

Expressing love while in need carries a yawning maw of emptiness. No matter how much love one puts into it or hears care and concern back, they never feel full. Part of this is because they seek to use their love for a partner in lieu of their own self worth.

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Expressing Love Without Neediness 

* Filling Oneself: Saying things like "I love you" may be rubbing a deep wound of unrequited affection from the far past. This attempt puts too much pressure on a partner and projects neediness.

* Outside Approval: More than just traditional love, approval or value can be bolstered by the presence of a partner. Sensations of being undervalued lurk just out of sight.

* Lacking Separation: Loss of status by no longer being part of a couple causes pain. The emotional pain may lead to clinging onto a relationship out of fear of being alone.

Expressions of Love

Variety proves to be one of the beautiful characteristics of love. As there are infinite people feeling countless things in the world, love pours forth in a myriad of ways. It is up to the person to find the things with the power to speak to their partner. Sometimes the act will require work. Other times love drips from them like fresh honey from a honeycomb.

Gifts, actions and words demonstrates one's deep love in numerous ways. Expressions of love must be tempered. Hearing "I love you" too much will dull a partner to the true meaning of the words. Conversely, a partner saying "I am only happy when you love me" places far too much pressure on the receiver. Gifts and actions carry the same potential to damage relationships rather that allow them to grow.

Taking time, allowing space and checking one's motivation creates a relationship, even one recovered from a break up, where love can flourish. Use the variety of love to capture all the ways a partner encapsulates the things they mean. A healthy relationship lasts for a long time. This means every expression of love can be an exploration into the endless array of the powerful feeling. Say "I love you" a new way everyday.

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torsdag 29 december 2016

Reinvigorating Self Esteem Post Break Up

The emotional blow brought about by the ending of a relationship, especially one with deep roots, tends to shatter even the strongest foundations of self esteem. People begin to question why it happened, if they are worthy of love and where their true value lies. These questions force the person to stare deep within themselves for the answers. Simple responses like "time heals all wounds" or "there are other fish in the sea" never reach the darker corners causing people to wrestle with themselves in the middle of the night. Fortunately, steps can be taken to repair the damage done to the self esteem because of a break up.

Establish Your Value

Following the end of the relationship, someone might find it challenging to see how they matter. The initial step centers around discovering where true value lies. The first pass of this step needs to be done alone. After taking time and fully considering one's value, they can then take their insights to a trusted friend or counselor. People rarely, if ever, possess a clear picture of themselves. They might discount important components of themselves, so they need an outside view.

Aspects of Values to Consider

Values Rarely Change: It might be easier to view these as the elements making up someone's personality and character. They might mellow or intensify with stress or calm, but values almost never vanish.

Values Run in Packs: Clusters of values swirl around making up the whole person. Finding one will usually bring another to the surface.

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Reinvigorating Self Esteem Post Break Up

Values Scream and Whisper: When on the search, some values will be obvious like those who place a high value on their care of others. Sneakier values duck and hide fearing their exposure might cause pain. All the values are important, even the ones not wanting to be found.

Working in the Now

Taking time for oneself is critical following a break up. In the cauldron of the emotional turmoil, one can find the things pointing them toward a smarter, kinder and wiser version of themselves. Some important parts of this process need to be remembered.

* Patience: Everything will not be better or revealed overnight. Quick answers will not bring lasting comfort.
* Compassion: Being kind to oneself can be one of the greatest challenges because lashing inward proves easy.
* Perspective: The past is a guide and not a template for all things in the future. Learn without clinging.

Avoid Shortcuts

Following the break up and when hurting deeply, one may struggle to salve the wounds with things to tamp down the pain. Relying on distractions, even good distractions, will prolong the time spent trying to bring the self esteem to a healthy place. Using repetitive, numbing actions only give temporary boosts or blankets to one's view of their self worth.

Self esteem is like a tree with times of flourishing and times of pruning. One can view a break up as a way to see what is truly important and where their true value lies. By focusing during this time, one will be ready for the next relationship while taking comfort in being alone. Also, a strong self esteem permits anyone to stand secure in who they are.

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