tisdag 5 juli 2016

Three Areas Pointing to the End of a Relationship

Three Areas Pointing to the End of a Relationship

Every couple longs for eternity. Unfortunately, forever challenges all couples regardless of how they started, what they have survived and the best of intentions. Being able to spot when things are coming off the rails in a relationship will allow everyone to assess what needs to be done to salvage it and if they wish to invest the time.

Area One: Communication

Communication is held up as the best barometer for telling the status of a relationship. Part of this stems from how pervasive an aspect of the whole relationship communication turns out to be. So how can a couple tell if trouble is brewing in the arena of communication?

All Is Quiet: Long, uncomfortable silences charged with tension define the time spent together. This may occur because one of the pair feels no desire to expend the energy to engage in healthy communication.



Swimming in the Shallow End: When discussions happen, the topics remain light or non threatening. Short and unemotional answers replace detailed explanations of troubles at work or pleasant things noted in the world.

Explosive Endings: If deeper conversational topic arise, couples on the brink devolve in to yelling and name calling rather than pursuing the underlying issue. It is often surprising how much energy those who want to fight can find.

Area Two: Affection

Affection takes many forms. Some of the most obvious center around the physical. While a good space to begin the search, couples concerned about the health of their relationship need to look beyond the easiest to disguise. Couple in failing relationships may seek physical pleasure when nothing else works.

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Three Areas Pointing to the End of a Relationship

Loss of Physicality: Outside of intimate physicality, couples nearing the end find no comfort or pleasure in the touch of one another. They are less likely to hold hands, hug, kiss or snuggle. These little gestures demonstrate how far apart they are.

Inequality of Time: Healthy couples spend time with one another and apart. Conversely, unhealthy relations tip towards more time apart. It can have reasonable explanations, but the separation shows how disconnected the partners are.

No Kind Acts: Recalling a time where love bloomed and blossomed, these couples may have made a cup of tea, offered a foot rub or other gestures just because. Every couple, even the harried, need to reach out in special ways. If such things evaporate, the couple needs to be concerned.

Area Three: Future

Couples nearing the end report findings themselves on a relational treadmill from which they cannot remove themselves. Seasons of staleness in long relationships are natural for a brief period and all couples face them. As thing wind down, one or both of the partners see no future with this person. They might even begin planning for life without the other person. Such behavior might manifest as searching for apartments in another area of the city, applying for work in another region or living a separate life. A couple not growing toward a future together, in some form or fashion, dies where they stand.

When the end comes, being honest and having a talk can be the hardest thing to do. Couples would prefer not acknowledge this because of feeling like failure or not knowing what is next. Ultimately, things ending respectfully eases the transition to the next phase. Everyone would rather feel strong and healthy moving forward, so have the talk.

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tisdag 15 mars 2016

Three Big Mistakes After a Break Up

Recovering from the end of a relationship means the person in the midst of their pain must take steps to resist falling into some classic behavioral patterns placing them at greater risk in the future. It is easy at first pass to believe recovering from the heartbreak is paramount. While the importance of emotional recovery cannot be ignored, individuals need their wits about them to move to healthier place.

One: Running From the World

Hurt people long to reduce pain by removing themselves from the world. They equate contact with risk. On a rudimentary level, they are not incorrect. They have to come into contact with others to be hurt. Three drawbacks of isolation include the following.



* Being alone causes the person to grow comfortable with lack of contact making reintegration into society more difficult.
* With only themselves around, their view of the world becomes decidedly one sided.
* Isolated people see no benefit in having others in their lives, either platonic or romantic.

The temptation to flee is great because of how easy a decision it is. Being a simple solution does not make it the best.

Two: Apathy Is Not An Answer

A more extreme form of isolation centers around apathy for all things. It might start with things in the outside world. It becomes a bigger concern when the lack of care turns inward. A person unable to see their own self worth means some of the energy spurring forward momentum and change spills into destructive behavior like self flagellation or starvation.


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Three Big Mistakes After a Break Up 

Lacking self care can be a sign of a deeper problem. Those not taking steps to feed, clothe and clean themselves and punctuate their actions with a litany of self talk centered around how they do not deserve to survive or move forward prove to be at very high risk for serious pain moving forward. It may sound dramatic. It is often the loudest who is unable to call for help themselves.

Three: Emotional Self Harm

At its most extreme, those suffering the deepest seek to harm themselves or others. Because of the nature of the pain and the fact everyone suffers with it one time or another, it can be difficult to lend sufficient weight to the serious matter. Two clear patterns exist. Let's look at them both.

Hanging On: These people are unable to release the relationship. They try to cling to their former partner regardless of the pain of living a lie. Only by coping with the loss can they person let go of the other and begin moving forward.

Lashing Out: This collection of behaviors seek to do the most harm by word and action. It can be difficult to differentiate between healthy progression of recovery and more acidic venom. A clear voice may give a clearer perspective, but it will need to be delivered in a harsh manner.

In the end, people in pain need to acknowledge their state and seek peace and stability. Such movement brings about pain greater than the loss of the relationship. It often helps for people to understand they are not their pain or their circumstances, no matter how easy it is to believe. They find peace to grow beyond the moment and let go of the pain and event surrounding to break up. This is the only way they can love again.


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torsdag 3 december 2015

ONLINE DATING IN RETIREMENT

ONLINE DATING IN RETIREMENT
by Lee Johnson

This part of dating in retirement is about the online experience. Some say about 20% to 25% of all relationships start online. I’m sure this figure is higher for the retired because we spend more time at home and have fewer social engagements. But, is this a good idea for women?

Let’s examine the pros and cons as to why this is becoming so popular. Lets start with the PROS:

1. KNOWLEDGE: You know something about the person before any contact is made. It’s an enlightening experience to read about a person’s interests and traits before you meet them. This information instantly gives both parties something in common to talk about. 2. EFFICIENCY: You waste less time. Picking from a list of interested people is far better than trying to figure out who might be interested.

3. CONVENIENCE: You never leave the comfort of your home until you are ready. The days of going to places just because men are there are over.

4. EQUALITY: You can contact whom you want rather than wait to be contacted. The archaic system of only the men starting the conversation or asking the women out is over.

5. SOCIAL: It's social networking. It’s not all about romance as many people end up being friends. Many people are online to meet platonic or activity partners

6. COST EFFECTIVE: Many of the online sites are free. Frankly, I can’t see much difference between them and the paid ones. One might think that the paid sites have more affluent people. This could be true, but I find there is a wide range of socioeconomic status on all sites.

7. MORE CONTROL: Some of us are bothered by getting propositioned by undesirables when we are out. If this happens online, you just delete the message from the privacy of your home.

8. SAFETY: You don’t have to give out your name or number until ready and I recommend you do an online background search on someone before you go out.

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ONLINE DATING IN RETIREMENT

One woman complained that she doesn’t want her personal information "out there" on the Internet. Well, you are only offering general information about yourself with, just an optional photo. Your name, phone and address are not listed, of course. You will need a password to access your account. So, I suppose there is some risk if someone hacks the website and copies your ad to You Tube, but its entrainment value is very low, and there is no payoff for the hacker. THE CONS:

1. MISREPRESENTATION: By far the most common complaint is insincerity or lying to make themselves look better. Men can be married or multiple daters. Of course, this happens off line too, but when you are anonymous it’s easier to be deceptive. So, you ask a lot of questions and do a background check.

2. RECOGNITION: Someone you know may recognize you online. This is not a problem if you tell people you are looking.

3. RUDENESS: Some men can be curt or suggestive. Some are going to say dumb things. Rather than get annoyed with this, it’s so easy to just delete them and move on. If they get really out of line, you complain and get them removed from the site.

4. CONFUSION: Dating too many people at once can be confusing for some. This is more likely to happen online than off. If anybody has more to add, please let me know.

If you decide to give online dating a try, you will be asked to summarize yourself. Creating a "profile" gives some people pause, but a well-thought-out summary attracts the right person. Some websites have questionnaires to help match people with similar answers. They attempt to match your interests and your personality traits.

You’re encouraged to add photos to your ad if you want to get more responses. This is important because you don’t get a second chance to make a first impression. People look at your photo first and must find it acceptable before they read your profile. It’s important to put your best foot forward without exaggeration. If your date catches you misrepresenting yourself, it’s generally a deal breaker.


Once you have an online ad, expect to receive emails from people tying to find out if you have enough in common. You will progress to a phone conversation, then to a coffee or lunch date, when ready. You’ll usually know after the first date if you want to continue. Just like any other dating, you need to meet many people before you meet the right person. This may be your last romantic relationship, so taking time to choose correctly is important.

Common Sense Conclusion: More seniors are dating in their retirement years, and are more likely to use Internet platforms for meeting their next partner.

FROM: www.creativeretirementforwomen.com

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fredag 30 oktober 2015

Capturing the Relationship in a Song

Couples seek ways to define their relationships. Some share a great meeting story. Others tattoo their skin with a meaningful word or symbol. Since the advent of coupling, music represented the ideal representation of a relationship.

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A song carries a multitude of meanings, grant deeper understanding of what the pair means to one another and be a touchstone of history when times get tough. How does a couple pick a song? It can be tricky. Looking at the options available and how they can be tailored allows couples to make the right decision.

Capture a Memory

By tying into a key event, couples find a song central to the time in their past. Most relationships possess moments when something is discovered. It could be the first date, the initial profession of love or the romantic evening when each felt truly heard by the other.
Generally speaking, these memories have a natural soundtrack with ambient noise or possibly a song playing in the background. The song will need to capture all of these aspects along with what the couple experiences. Doing so requires an ear for a feeling more than a faithful recreation of the event.

Love Songs

The music industry has long produced prepackaged slices of emotional distillations. While they are easy, couples need to find their own special ways of saying they love one another. Love songs, like greet cards, can leave little room for the nuances of the relationship.
This does not mean classic tunes with strong melodies and clear words will not target the relationship. It sometimes means others will consider the song theirs as well.

Make It Special

Like a blank sheet of paper, couples write their own love in unique ways. Maybe something from the past, like a standard, captures the timelessness of a couple's feelings about one another.

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Capturing the Relationship in a Song

A driving beat or cries of a protest song might demonstrate how the pair stands against the world. Teasing out the aspects of the relationship which prove different from other relationships cracks avenues of expression beyond the traditional ballads. Here are some options for couples.

* Defiance: A forged unit against the normality of society
* Loyalty: Existing beyond the span of life world calls back to eternity.
* Silly: A swing song or light hearted dance tune provides an alternative aspect to the seriousness of commitment.

Think About a Playlist

What if the song was not a single song? With the vastness of love and music, couples should feel no need to limit themselves to a single song. One can begin the process, set a template and capture the initial feelings. From there, the playlist can be formed by events occurring in the moment.

If the couple weathers a difficult patch, they can select a song to commemorate the struggle. A change in roles, maybe as parents, could open a path for different songs. This could be part of an anniversary tradition at the five or ten year marks building the library as the relationship extends. Then the couple will possess a living musical timeline of their relationship.

Songs capture love as love captures the heart. View this tradition with clear eyes and not as a stodgy idea of a bygone era. Couples with songs have a tangible attachment to their own history. One with a beat they can hum together.

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torsdag 8 oktober 2015

Expressions of Love for Your Partner

Receiving love proves challenging for numerous people. In some cases, they may actively block the sentimental expression or a particular way of hearing they are loved may not resonate with them. What does that mean for the partner seeking to shower their loved one with the deep truth of how big an impact they are? Here are a few ideas, some large and others small, to capture the elusive feeling of adoration one feels for a partner.

Be Appreciative: Hearing how their gestures impact your life helps them know you are paying attention. Far too often, a multitude of kindnesses go ignore building up resentment. Even better, expressing gratitude for who they are, their impact on your life and all the ways the day is better with them emphasizes the depth of your love. Saying thank you seems small, but it pays huge dividends.

The Gift of Time: In our society, people never have time for one another. We rush from one thing to another, look to mark things off our to do list and remain connected to our electronic devices. Imagine receiving the gift of an uninterrupted evening with a loved one when all the outside demands are silenced. It demonstrates how they are the center of your life.

Make a Plan: Think about the special day when you got checked out school early for a game or movie. Or maybe you slipped out of the office early so you could hear the band you liked perform an outdoor concert. Now, take those creative muscles and plan a special day for the one you love. It can be a romantic scavenger hunt all with little nods to how special they are. Even whisking them out of the office for a picnic lunch will show you're thinking of them.

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Expressions of Love for Your Partner

Say the Words and Say More: Don't be stingy with the "I Love Yous." We all need to hear it. A sincere "I Love You" brightens anyone's day. But don't stop there. Find new and creative ways to express the same sentiment. Maybe whispering "Te amo" in Spanish or "Je t'amie" in French can be exciting. Also, try not limiting yourself to the tried and true. Couples find their own expressions of love. Seek the right mix to capture the feelings and say it.

Use Variety: Receiving the same card, gift or words every single time deflates the expression rather than increases it. This means putting on your thinking beret and take a few extra steps.

* Gifts-Flowers, candy or little plastic dinosaurs. Pick the right thing which brings out the warm feelings.
* Notes-Feelings on paper provides a marker to the time and sentiment for your partner. Don't resist a little love poetry either.
* Touches-Hugs, foot rubs and smooches never go out of style and being close feels great for you and your partner.
* Sing-Accompanying your singing on the ukulele may capture the passion brewing in your heart for your special someone.

Deep and lasting love is eternal by definition. This means you need to be creative and excited about expressing your love because time will never run out. And nothing warms a heart like a passionate "I Love You."

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tisdag 15 september 2015

How to make him desire you.

Today I owe you an apology... because it turns out I was WRONG about something 
incredibly important.

See, here is the number one question I get from women:

“Does he really love ME? And even if he says he does, how can I know for sure?”

This is a great question.

I mean, even if loves you NOW...

...what guarantee do you have that he won’t lose interest in the future?

Men changing their minds and losing interest is crazy common.

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Or that he simply didn’t deserve you.

But now, I EMBARRASSINGLY admit …

I was WRONG.

I recently stumbled upon a scientifically proven method called ‘emotional flooding’ that 
allows you to ‘flood’ his mind with the strong, almost COMPULSIVE feelings of attraction 
and desire...


Literally ‘on command’.

It’s like an invisible switch for mind control.

In fact, when you apply this method the right way … you can keep him completely in love,
attracted, and committed heart and soul to YOU for as long as you want him.

Evil?

Maybe...

But when you do it right, you’re going to see even the most bored, disconnected man 
suddenly becoming so intensely obsessed with you that he can’t stop himself from 
coming closer and closer.

You’re going to see even the biggest player brutally ignoring the prettiest women in the room, 
just to talk to YOU.

Don't Chest

In fact, you can even use it on your ex, to have him beg and plead to come crawling back for 
another chance.

It really is that powerful.

But, there is a catch...

This method really pisses men off...

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Love,

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fredag 11 september 2015

Retiring as a Single Woman

Retiring as a Single Woman
by Lee Johnson

Retiring single is much less daunting than in prior generations. Part of the reason is that it's now socially acceptable. Women desire independence, but don't want to be disconnected from people. This is actually easy to achieve when your social network of friends and family is well developed and local.

I believe that it's not only culturally acceptable to retire single, but it can be more rewarding. Single women often have a much broader social network than married women. A recently divorced woman in her 50s told me that her husband was so unfriendly to her friends, they stopped visiting. Her network gradually disappeared and stayed that way for many years. After her divorce, her social recovery involved many more friends and has social engagements any night of the week if she wants. She is more socially connected now than when married.


When a man is not in your life, you're freer to do what you enjoy and what benefits you the most. Some of you may think that means doing more things alone. But, there is nothing wrong with doing things alone while you always have your social network to fall back on. So, part of retiring alone is that you must be the first one to accept and want it. If this is a calculated decision based on proper planning, you'll feel more confident and energized to embrace it.

The chances are that as your network develops, you will be doing less and less alone. Our goal is to always stay connected to the friends and family of our choice. A boyfriend can be part of this network, since being single only means you are not married or cohabiting. I'm not suggesting celibacy unless that is your conscience decision. I'm suggesting an independent life that you control and decide when to bond or not bond with the opposite gender. There is no pressure to preform or follow the expectations of others unless you choose to do so. You may need to explain your position to a boyfriend and request his acceptance of such.

Retiring as a Single Woman

Single women I know that are successful at networking, claim they are happy not dating and don't feel they miss anything. So, I can personally verify that happy and successful adjustments can be made. That being said, being single is not for everyone. Whether you are an introvert(internally focused) or extrovert may matter. Since these types may be genetic and hard wired into your brain, you might want to see where you fit. Most of us know which type we are. If you are an introvert, you enjoy spending time alone and tend not to miss people. So, this lifestyle may be more suitable for the introvert who enjoys more solitude.

If you are thinking about taking the single path in retirement, look into you past first. How happy are you on your own? Do you tend to get lonely when not around people? Does a lot of social contact exhaust you? It's just about understand your social needs. If you have a history of doing well with solitude and don't crave social contact, this might be for you. If so, the better developed your retirement plan is, the more enjoyment you'll get out of it.

In conclusion, retiring single is now an acceptable and viable option for women. A well developed social network provides the mental stimulation and emotional support needed. Having a boyfriend is just part of the network. Being introverted makes this lifestyle easier to adapt to. Women I know who make this adjustment, feel they have a happy and complete life.

I've always felt that the best retirement is based on your personality type. What society or past generation did has nothing to do with you because they don't have your character. So, embracing independence in retirement is a personal decision based on prior success with independent living. L. Johnson

More: http://www.creativeretirementforwomen.com

More Information:

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Source: http://www.PopularArticles.com/article468500.html

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