tisdag 18 oktober 2016

Expectations Before an Ex's Return

In this day and age, couples with an existing history can find themselves back together. The time apart makes reestablishing the relationship or even moving back in with one another infinitely more challenging. For this reason, couples need to set realistic expectations and boundaries to prevent a fiery repeat of the past. The steps couples undergo are simple and critical allowing for a possible future.



Couples need to determine how to set a balance between what occurred before and the future. The tenuous nature of the present post break up leads to circumstances where either one may feel they need to behave differently from their natural tendencies. A verbal agreement might assist in moving forward where the past is resolved without damage to the impending path before the pair.


Even those closest before a separation, regardless of the reason, will need to negotiate the space they share. The funny thing about space is it does not always refer to square footage of a residency. Relationships have emotional and intimate spaces where each person requires a level of safety to form in a functioning couple. Initially, one may want or need more room or assurance of stability. This can be a slow growth area and forces couples to deal honestly with one another.

Return of Trouble

Establishing how to deal with conflict in the future must be hashed out prior to reestablishment of the relationship. Everyone wants to believe they are falling into a pairing with their ideal mate. Unfortunately, things never go smoothly all the time. If such bliss were easy there would be no need for things like apology cards, flowers and homemade meals with cupcakes spelling "I'm Sorry." Ignoring future trouble only compounds things, so it is better to address things early.

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Expectations Before an Ex's Return


Everyone thinks they possess a lock on good communication. They know what to say in every situation and can hear the truth behind the words professed by their partner. While this overly rosy view of things feels right, couples often note communication is the one area they struggle the most. Sharing things, especially the hard stuff, means being honest with oneself and a partner. Making communication a priority is a must if a couple settles back into a relationship.

Find Peace

One of the most difficult things in getting back together centers around peace and contentment. This becomes harder if there has been a significant betrayal like infidelity or abuse. Couples must take a hard look at what needs to be overcome. If the mountain proves too high to scale, they may come to the conclusion they are unable be together. This expectation generally proves the hardest of all because even the people who may believe they are meant to be together may never locate the serene place where they are able to grow as an individual and as a couple.

Expectations permit those seeking to reestablish a terminated relationship to reenter with clear vision and hope for the future. Each aspect requires hard work. Often couples wilt under the pressure of one of these components. If they rush, the couple will find themselves trapped in an unhappy situation which they may wish never existed. They are better off investing with hard work at the beginning while hoping for the best moving forward.

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måndag 19 september 2016

Ticking Clock to Get Back with an Ex

Rekindling a romance hits countless hurdles. One rarely addressed is how long does one have to reestablish a relationship with an ex. Though other questions exist, one needs to take time to evaluate multiple factors before rushing back into a situation filled with concerned. Taking a walk down this path requires a few steps before answering the question of how long become too long to return to an ex.

Factors to Consider First

A hard look at the past may provide a clearer picture as to the challenges facing someone attempting to reenter an ex's life. Seemingly elementary, most people skip this step for multiple reasons. Perhaps they are driven by loneliness to see their ex as someone they are not. Or things ended in a state of ambivalence, they wonder how the new relationship may mimic the previous attempt. Two important things to consider give a clear indication of how to proceed.

Way Things Ended: The parting shows the way things were during the course of a relationship. Pain over the end can cloud judgement. Seeing how each person left and the things said will help prognosticate how likely things will begin again.

* With A Whimper: An amicable ending often leaves the door open for a second pass.
* A Low Rumbling: Things might need some time to pass before one and their ex may consider reconnecting.
* Global Thermal Nuclear War: Accusations, shouting and broken belongs bode ill for any return relational status.

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Ticking Clock to Get Back with an Ex 

Current Relational Status: As with any romantic foray, those who have moved to another individual tend to not look back at past relationships. If the ex has found another person and is making a life with them, no amount of time will be appropriate while they remain together.

Managing Expectations

This can be challenging for people because of the dual fronts being evaluated. First, the relationship itself, both past and future, need to be treated as a new thing. This means setting aside past hurts and joys while taking it on face value allowing it to grow naturally. Second, one's own excitement or reticence drive expectations into unrealistic areas. Hope, love, pain and disappointment can supercharge how a person views things moving forward.

And The Answer Is

Reading stories of those reconnecting with high school sweethearts and rekindling relationships thought long dead provides the greatest indicator of expiration dates on relationships. Truly, connection and love overcome almost any barrier, even time. The constructed concern about it being too long is valid only in light of other, more important, factors. Time grows to be more an excuse rather than a true hurdle to getting back with one's ex.

This means if the relationship is right, even if it has been a while since each person went their separate ways, it can be rekindled and flourish. A wise person capable of considering all the key factors and managing their expectations opens up an opportunity to love with someone they know and care for. They need courage most of all to not let their own fear stop them from taking the risk.

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söndag 4 september 2016

Tailoring a Dating Profile to Attract the Right Man

Computer dating sites sprang up as a replacement to matchmakers and nights of cold calling for potential mates at local bars and clubs. Technology eases the act of meeting. However, the onus falls to the person presenting themselves online, maybe even more so than in person, because of ways the dating profile can be customized. This means knowing what to include and responding to feedback becomes ever more critical to increase the opportunity to meet the right guy and not just a guy.

Closing Down Avenues

The laundry list of people and characteristics available through online sites means the weave of the net can be incredibly tight. Age, lifestyle, faith and other criteria lock people into certain categories from the outset. This means a site aggregating those of a particular religion may never meet someone of a different worldview.

Because of this segmenting, the profile presented should remain as open as possible to allow as many people to see it. Striking too many options from a particular list means stopping someone from hitting reply. One of psychological hurdles facing everyone centers around the belief what they want for themselves is paramount and "right." Loosening the restrictions does not mean low to no standards. It permits the opportunity to meet someone who may show a new way of looking at the world to see if they are the right person.

Open to Fun

Stressing serious, even foundational, matters at the initial introduction torpedoes any future meeting. The profile exists in a space closer to a greeting. For this reason, hot button issues and dark moments from one's past have no place on a dating profile. Here are some ways to hue closer to the light side and giving a chance for deeper sharing further down the line.

Tailoring a Dating Profile to Attract the Right Man

* Picture: Big smile, out of the house and in the sun if possible. Several sites allow multiple photos, so have a variety.
* Activities: Select a few hobbies presenting a variety of interests. Everyone likes movies, but hikers and artists can stand out.
* Clever: Take some time to personalize the profile with the real aspects of your personality. If you like a historical quote or your detailed pumpkin carving, use it.

Emphasize "Dating with Purpose"

Men reading dating profiles seek women who desire a meeting while not on an endless carousel of dates. The reason you both signed up to the site centers on finding someone and growing together. If not, there are other sites for more casual encounters. Take the dating part seriously. Meet people, go out and have fun. Someone in in a dating loop may need to reassess the profile and intent of being on the site.

All of these suggestions can feel as though you are being asked to be something you are not. Ultimately, you need to be honest on your profile, with yourself and those who respond. Take your time because rushing things will only yield greater dry spells and dates with the wrong guys. The goal should be to find someone you want to spend all your time with. So craft the right message and let the dating sites help you find the right one.

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tisdag 5 juli 2016

Three Areas Pointing to the End of a Relationship

Three Areas Pointing to the End of a Relationship

Every couple longs for eternity. Unfortunately, forever challenges all couples regardless of how they started, what they have survived and the best of intentions. Being able to spot when things are coming off the rails in a relationship will allow everyone to assess what needs to be done to salvage it and if they wish to invest the time.

Area One: Communication

Communication is held up as the best barometer for telling the status of a relationship. Part of this stems from how pervasive an aspect of the whole relationship communication turns out to be. So how can a couple tell if trouble is brewing in the arena of communication?

All Is Quiet: Long, uncomfortable silences charged with tension define the time spent together. This may occur because one of the pair feels no desire to expend the energy to engage in healthy communication.

Swimming in the Shallow End: When discussions happen, the topics remain light or non threatening. Short and unemotional answers replace detailed explanations of troubles at work or pleasant things noted in the world.

Explosive Endings: If deeper conversational topic arise, couples on the brink devolve in to yelling and name calling rather than pursuing the underlying issue. It is often surprising how much energy those who want to fight can find.

Area Two: Affection

Affection takes many forms. Some of the most obvious center around the physical. While a good space to begin the search, couples concerned about the health of their relationship need to look beyond the easiest to disguise. Couple in failing relationships may seek physical pleasure when nothing else works.

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Three Areas Pointing to the End of a Relationship

Loss of Physicality: Outside of intimate physicality, couples nearing the end find no comfort or pleasure in the touch of one another. They are less likely to hold hands, hug, kiss or snuggle. These little gestures demonstrate how far apart they are.

Inequality of Time: Healthy couples spend time with one another and apart. Conversely, unhealthy relations tip towards more time apart. It can have reasonable explanations, but the separation shows how disconnected the partners are.

No Kind Acts: Recalling a time where love bloomed and blossomed, these couples may have made a cup of tea, offered a foot rub or other gestures just because. Every couple, even the harried, need to reach out in special ways. If such things evaporate, the couple needs to be concerned.

Area Three: Future

Couples nearing the end report findings themselves on a relational treadmill from which they cannot remove themselves. Seasons of staleness in long relationships are natural for a brief period and all couples face them. As thing wind down, one or both of the partners see no future with this person. They might even begin planning for life without the other person. Such behavior might manifest as searching for apartments in another area of the city, applying for work in another region or living a separate life. A couple not growing toward a future together, in some form or fashion, dies where they stand.

When the end comes, being honest and having a talk can be the hardest thing to do. Couples would prefer not acknowledge this because of feeling like failure or not knowing what is next. Ultimately, things ending respectfully eases the transition to the next phase. Everyone would rather feel strong and healthy moving forward, so have the talk.

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tisdag 15 mars 2016

Three Big Mistakes After a Break Up

Recovering from the end of a relationship means the person in the midst of their pain must take steps to resist falling into some classic behavioral patterns placing them at greater risk in the future. It is easy at first pass to believe recovering from the heartbreak is paramount. While the importance of emotional recovery cannot be ignored, individuals need their wits about them to move to healthier place.

One: Running From the World

Hurt people long to reduce pain by removing themselves from the world. They equate contact with risk. On a rudimentary level, they are not incorrect. They have to come into contact with others to be hurt. Three drawbacks of isolation include the following.

* Being alone causes the person to grow comfortable with lack of contact making reintegration into society more difficult.
* With only themselves around, their view of the world becomes decidedly one sided.
* Isolated people see no benefit in having others in their lives, either platonic or romantic.

The temptation to flee is great because of how easy a decision it is. Being a simple solution does not make it the best.

Two: Apathy Is Not An Answer

A more extreme form of isolation centers around apathy for all things. It might start with things in the outside world. It becomes a bigger concern when the lack of care turns inward. A person unable to see their own self worth means some of the energy spurring forward momentum and change spills into destructive behavior like self flagellation or starvation.

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Three Big Mistakes After a Break Up 

Lacking self care can be a sign of a deeper problem. Those not taking steps to feed, clothe and clean themselves and punctuate their actions with a litany of self talk centered around how they do not deserve to survive or move forward prove to be at very high risk for serious pain moving forward. It may sound dramatic. It is often the loudest who is unable to call for help themselves.

Three: Emotional Self Harm

At its most extreme, those suffering the deepest seek to harm themselves or others. Because of the nature of the pain and the fact everyone suffers with it one time or another, it can be difficult to lend sufficient weight to the serious matter. Two clear patterns exist. Let's look at them both.

Hanging On: These people are unable to release the relationship. They try to cling to their former partner regardless of the pain of living a lie. Only by coping with the loss can they person let go of the other and begin moving forward.

Lashing Out: This collection of behaviors seek to do the most harm by word and action. It can be difficult to differentiate between healthy progression of recovery and more acidic venom. A clear voice may give a clearer perspective, but it will need to be delivered in a harsh manner.

In the end, people in pain need to acknowledge their state and seek peace and stability. Such movement brings about pain greater than the loss of the relationship. It often helps for people to understand they are not their pain or their circumstances, no matter how easy it is to believe. They find peace to grow beyond the moment and let go of the pain and event surrounding to break up. This is the only way they can love again.

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torsdag 3 december 2015


by Lee Johnson

This part of dating in retirement is about the online experience. Some say about 20% to 25% of all relationships start online. I’m sure this figure is higher for the retired because we spend more time at home and have fewer social engagements. But, is this a good idea for women?

Let’s examine the pros and cons as to why this is becoming so popular. Lets start with the PROS:

1. KNOWLEDGE: You know something about the person before any contact is made. It’s an enlightening experience to read about a person’s interests and traits before you meet them. This information instantly gives both parties something in common to talk about. 2. EFFICIENCY: You waste less time. Picking from a list of interested people is far better than trying to figure out who might be interested.

3. CONVENIENCE: You never leave the comfort of your home until you are ready. The days of going to places just because men are there are over.

4. EQUALITY: You can contact whom you want rather than wait to be contacted. The archaic system of only the men starting the conversation or asking the women out is over.

5. SOCIAL: It's social networking. It’s not all about romance as many people end up being friends. Many people are online to meet platonic or activity partners

6. COST EFFECTIVE: Many of the online sites are free. Frankly, I can’t see much difference between them and the paid ones. One might think that the paid sites have more affluent people. This could be true, but I find there is a wide range of socioeconomic status on all sites.

7. MORE CONTROL: Some of us are bothered by getting propositioned by undesirables when we are out. If this happens online, you just delete the message from the privacy of your home.

8. SAFETY: You don’t have to give out your name or number until ready and I recommend you do an online background search on someone before you go out.

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One woman complained that she doesn’t want her personal information "out there" on the Internet. Well, you are only offering general information about yourself with, just an optional photo. Your name, phone and address are not listed, of course. You will need a password to access your account. So, I suppose there is some risk if someone hacks the website and copies your ad to You Tube, but its entrainment value is very low, and there is no payoff for the hacker. THE CONS:

1. MISREPRESENTATION: By far the most common complaint is insincerity or lying to make themselves look better. Men can be married or multiple daters. Of course, this happens off line too, but when you are anonymous it’s easier to be deceptive. So, you ask a lot of questions and do a background check.

2. RECOGNITION: Someone you know may recognize you online. This is not a problem if you tell people you are looking.

3. RUDENESS: Some men can be curt or suggestive. Some are going to say dumb things. Rather than get annoyed with this, it’s so easy to just delete them and move on. If they get really out of line, you complain and get them removed from the site.

4. CONFUSION: Dating too many people at once can be confusing for some. This is more likely to happen online than off. If anybody has more to add, please let me know.

If you decide to give online dating a try, you will be asked to summarize yourself. Creating a "profile" gives some people pause, but a well-thought-out summary attracts the right person. Some websites have questionnaires to help match people with similar answers. They attempt to match your interests and your personality traits.

You’re encouraged to add photos to your ad if you want to get more responses. This is important because you don’t get a second chance to make a first impression. People look at your photo first and must find it acceptable before they read your profile. It’s important to put your best foot forward without exaggeration. If your date catches you misrepresenting yourself, it’s generally a deal breaker.

Once you have an online ad, expect to receive emails from people tying to find out if you have enough in common. You will progress to a phone conversation, then to a coffee or lunch date, when ready. You’ll usually know after the first date if you want to continue. Just like any other dating, you need to meet many people before you meet the right person. This may be your last romantic relationship, so taking time to choose correctly is important.

Common Sense Conclusion: More seniors are dating in their retirement years, and are more likely to use Internet platforms for meeting their next partner.

FROM: www.creativeretirementforwomen.com

More Information:

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fredag 30 oktober 2015

Capturing the Relationship in a Song

Couples seek ways to define their relationships. Some share a great meeting story. Others tattoo their skin with a meaningful word or symbol. Since the advent of coupling, music represented the ideal representation of a relationship.


A song carries a multitude of meanings, grant deeper understanding of what the pair means to one another and be a touchstone of history when times get tough. How does a couple pick a song? It can be tricky. Looking at the options available and how they can be tailored allows couples to make the right decision.

Capture a Memory

By tying into a key event, couples find a song central to the time in their past. Most relationships possess moments when something is discovered. It could be the first date, the initial profession of love or the romantic evening when each felt truly heard by the other.
Generally speaking, these memories have a natural soundtrack with ambient noise or possibly a song playing in the background. The song will need to capture all of these aspects along with what the couple experiences. Doing so requires an ear for a feeling more than a faithful recreation of the event.

Love Songs

The music industry has long produced prepackaged slices of emotional distillations. While they are easy, couples need to find their own special ways of saying they love one another. Love songs, like greet cards, can leave little room for the nuances of the relationship.
This does not mean classic tunes with strong melodies and clear words will not target the relationship. It sometimes means others will consider the song theirs as well.

Make It Special

Like a blank sheet of paper, couples write their own love in unique ways. Maybe something from the past, like a standard, captures the timelessness of a couple's feelings about one another.

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Capturing the Relationship in a Song

A driving beat or cries of a protest song might demonstrate how the pair stands against the world. Teasing out the aspects of the relationship which prove different from other relationships cracks avenues of expression beyond the traditional ballads. Here are some options for couples.

* Defiance: A forged unit against the normality of society
* Loyalty: Existing beyond the span of life world calls back to eternity.
* Silly: A swing song or light hearted dance tune provides an alternative aspect to the seriousness of commitment.

Think About a Playlist

What if the song was not a single song? With the vastness of love and music, couples should feel no need to limit themselves to a single song. One can begin the process, set a template and capture the initial feelings. From there, the playlist can be formed by events occurring in the moment.

If the couple weathers a difficult patch, they can select a song to commemorate the struggle. A change in roles, maybe as parents, could open a path for different songs. This could be part of an anniversary tradition at the five or ten year marks building the library as the relationship extends. Then the couple will possess a living musical timeline of their relationship.

Songs capture love as love captures the heart. View this tradition with clear eyes and not as a stodgy idea of a bygone era. Couples with songs have a tangible attachment to their own history. One with a beat they can hum together.

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